10 year old still bedwetting need advice

[Winston1234]

Hi. I am new to here and have decided to post as I don't know what to do anymore to help my son (and daughter). Son is 10 years old (nearly 11) and daughter is 8. Both are still not dry consistently through the night and are in nighttime pants. 8yr old doesnt seem that distressed about it but 10 yr old understandably is. 10 yr old seems to be able to managed a few dry nights - we managed 3 in a row last week but then wet the bed again 2 nights in a row. Wee is a lot and he says he thinks it is happenning early in the morning - that he can sense himself weeing like in a dream but cant wake himself up or stop it. He also seems to have an overactive bladder (like me), e.g if he drinks coke or juice or water in large quantities he needs to go to the loo several times urgently.

I've taken him several times to GP only to be told not to worry he will grow out of it and that they don't give out meds for this anymore. I've wondered about getting an alarm but they are quite expensive and had hoped cld get one from nhs.

Any advice on what I can do to help him to be dry through the night would be gratefully received. Thank you.

[StellaA]

Trying to get an alarm on the nhs is wishful thinking, and alot of the ones online are very overpriced and bulky.I ordered one like this, ebay.co.uk/itm/Mulitiple-Pu...

I found it perfectly acceptable for my own use at night, i found it was easier to have it on my ankle than on my arm as I'm a restless sleeper.

[Mum2twolittleones in reply to StellaA]

I have just ordered an alarm for my nearly 6 year old daughter who is wet every night, it cost £36 is being delivered by prime we get it tomorrow, 🤞this works

[Yaleamanda]

There are things that you can do to help though, ensure that she drinks plenty of water during the day, this will help to train the bladder to hold more liquid, do not lift to take to the toilet at night as it only manages the issue and not deal with it, but do take her to the toilet before bed twice and make sure she completely empties her bladder, count to 30, you will be surprised how much wee comes out again. Don't restrict liquids after a certain time, it doesn't actually work . Have a read of this article bbuk.org.uk/wp-content/uplo... . Bedwetting is extremely common, i think in a class of 30 children (primary age) 1in 3 will still be wetting at night. Also push for a referral to your local continence team, they can also help, don't let your Dr fob you off. They may also loan you an alarm but you will have to buy one as they don't loan them for long if they have any.

[Mum2twolittleones in reply to Yaleamanda]

Thanks for the link I found this helpful

[profyaffle]

You need to ask to see a different GP, there absolutely is more they can do, especially at age 10. My 11 year old still wets the bed every night (much like your son he thinks it happens early morning but he just can't wake up) and has been prescribed an alarm and desmopressin to try and help. There should be a local continence nurse they can refer you to. If the GP really won't help, try the school nurse if you have one. Good Luck!

[Frogstar13]

Hiya, my older son used to wet the bed until he was 7 or 8 and was checked out in hospital but he just was a deep sleeper. He grew out of it eventually but what helped was not giving him juice, milk or anything other than water after tea time and making sure he drank lots of water in the morning & afternoon so he was hydrated & didn't drink alot of water in the evening. It's hard as they get older but it worked x

[MrsSquirrel]

Agree with other posters. GP is talking tosh!

[Blueycat]

Yes definitely get another opinion as they do prescribe things for their age. My son is 9 & has been prescribed desmopressin at night which reduces the amount of urine they produce at night, & he also has a bedtime alarm which is helping. This was all suggested by a paediatric consultant at our local hospital & gp referred us. When they are young they don’t tend to do much but at age 7/8+ they usually do so I’d go back to gp. My son also suffers with daytime wetting so has also been on a bladder training programme through the consultant (drinking more water etc) so there definitely are things that can be tried. Good luck

[Blueycat]

Also just go say, you can get alarms on nhs but I was told waiting list was very long & they are not wireless so a bit more cumbersome to use in bed. I ordered a wireless alarm from Amazon, it is called DryEasy, it was £50. I know not cheap but cheaper than the ones on Eric website x

[Teddy500 in reply to Blueycat]

Hi, hope you don't mind me asking, your reply mentioned that your child has daytime and nighttime wetting (like my son)....I've been debating about a bedwetting alarm but some things I've read say that a child should ideally be dry during the day first, I just wondered if you'd had any success with the alarm please? Many thanks 🌺

[Blueycat in reply to Teddy500]

Our consultant also said not to start night time treatment until daytime sorted, but although not sorted, his daytime wetting improved so we were advised to start. We tried the desmopressin first & his urine production has decreased at night but not stopped so then we were suggested the alarm. But also dr said to wake him up when we come to bed & get him to go to toilet. This has helped as that is when he usually got wet. But then he also got wet in the morning I think, just before getting up, I think sometimes he was half asleep but didn’t want to get out of bed to go to the toilet. The alarm has only gone off a few times & he absolutely hated the noise, so I think that is making him more conscious of when he wees & means he can hold it a bit more until he gets up.

[Hjmilward]

Agree with all of the above - go back to the GP and ask to be referred to your local continence team or see a different GP if they still won’t help. It’s very unfair and insensitive of the GP to ignore your children’s needs, there is definitely more that can be done and medication is available and being prescribed by the NHS. My daughter is on oxybutynin and desmomelts which have meant totally dry nights for us for a while now. We were also loaned an alarm from the NHS for aslong as we needed it for - didn’t work so well for us but worth a try. Good luck!

[Strugglingmumofboy]

I think he needs referring to a specialist. There is medication. Or the local children's continence service

[Strugglingmumofboy]

Google nice guidance on enuresis and take to gp