School Residential: Hi my son is 10 and we need a... - ERIC

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Bella971
Bella971
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Hi my son is 10 and we need a solution to the bedwetting for the school residential coming up very soon. We have tried medication etc but need a practical solution quickly. He is worried about wearing a pull up because of the noise it makes. I bought some washable pants and they are noisy as well. Can anyone recommend a more discrete solution. He would be ok to deal with it in the morning etc but just doesn’t want anyone to know. Thanks

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SallyandPaul

Eric do pyjama trousers, long and short, I believe but they're hugely expensive

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Bella971

Thank you I looked at the reviews and one said they were noisy....it’s the noise that’s causing the worry....

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SallyandPaul

That's a shame. Ive just looked up p&s childrens bedtime pants. They look quite good and are nowhere near expensive,maybe worth a try. Just so feel for your boy and would love him to have something that really works. We have a ten year old daughter with different toiletting issues but understand what an antisocial nightmare it can be. Good luck

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AMOGO

My daughter's residential is this year and I'm very concerned she'll be teased although she doesn't seemed bothered about others knowing. We've had to tell the school and they reassured us that she's not the only one and there's a few every trip. I know this isn't a solution to your problem... but what have the school said? Didn't work for my friend but her GP recommended Desmopressin for the school trip; have you tried that?

Good luck xx

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Bella971
Bella971
in reply to AMOGO

Hi thanks for the replies I think the p&s healthcare pants are the ones I have got but I will contact them and see if they can advise

We are not trying Desmopressin as my son has autism and can’t be relied upon not to drink on an evening

Does she have good friends -if she isn’t bothered I think the children could be accepting and ok. The worry for me is that my son is bothered that people will notice. He will use the pants if I can find any that are not noisy.

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Saffietula
Saffietula
in reply to Bella971

No solutions here but my 9 1/2 year old daughter has done school residential, and school were really understanding, talk to the school about his concerns, if he has autism they should be more understanding and willing to help, maybe your son could get changed away from other kids so the rustling sound of putting them on isn’t heard, although I know that if your sons autism is a challenge for him this could be too much change aswell. My daughter uses asda own brand pull-ups at the mo we have issues with leakage with other brands, and once on, they don’t seem to rustle too much. Maybe pants over the top to help keep pull-up in place and mask any noise. Good luck

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PinkSciFi

What volume of wetting might he have? Have started getting my daughter prepared for periods and bought her a pair of period pants from modi - they are reusable, quiet and discrete and I’m sure there would be a style that don’t look like girls pants (and if not there are other manufacturers with similar products). Not the cheapest though, and don’t think they’d absorb a whole bladders worth of wee - although in my experience neither do disposable pull ups.

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Bella971
Bella971
in reply to PinkSciFi

Hi I have been wondering about how period pants work as they seem quite popular and I couldn’t imagine they would be too noisy. It’s a large volume though he soaked his duvet on Friday through the waterproof cover when we did a practice without a pull-up .

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PinkSciFi
PinkSciFi
in reply to Bella971

That sounds like the type of volume my son used to wet at night - unsure whether period pants would soak it all up.

I should have said though - my son has problems with wetting and soiling. He’s been on a number of school residentials and school have always been great and they have lots of strategies to try to ensure other kids don’t find out. Especially when he was younger, they said he wasn’t the only one who wet at night sometimes (the soiling is a bit more unusual). Can’t see why your son’s teachers won’t be just as supportive. Good luck!

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Bode05

We’ve got a residential this year too. However, my son is on desmopressin at night and oxybutinin in the day. He still has accidents sometimes so I am worried about him going, but I know socially he needs to go.

We are now looking into chiropractor near us and see if they can do anything. I’ve read a few people recommending this practice so I’m willing to try.

We don’t do pull ups, but I am worried that in a new environment and maybe being a bit stressed etc he will wet the bed a couple of times and don’t want him to go though it.

Sorry, not much advice, but you’re not alone. I believe there maybe more similar children on that trip than we think x

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AMOGO
AMOGO
in reply to Bode05

Please can you let me know how the chiropractor works out?

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Bode05
Bode05
in reply to AMOGO

Sure. I’m trying to find a good one atm! I believe they need a few sessions so hopefully will manage that before the residential! X

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Mumof3L

My son went on a residential this year. We'd had a bad time with medication affecting his behaviour so had taken him off them. He also didn't wear pull ups.

His teacher was great and we just had a plan in place for changing his stuff and the sheets. I bought the huggies disposable bed mats and the teacher helped him put these on his bed whilst the other children were doing a quiz (to make sure the worst of the wee was absorbed). She got the hostel to leave a spare set of bedding under his bed ready for changes. He then had a small rucksack that he left in the bathroom with spare PJs, wipes & carrier bags for wet things.

He went for two nights and didn't wet either night!! This was not the norm for him at all but he went to sleep so late and woke very early, also I think he would have been aware so didn't

get into as deep a sleep as normal. The teacher said this had happened quite often in similar situations. I was so pleased for him! But also worried less whilst he was away knowing everything was in place for a swift change if need be. The teacher would have come and changed the bed for him. Another child in another room was poorly and the sheets had to be changed and no one woke up in that room.

My son is 9. Hope this story helps you! We are still trying to find a solution but this was a massive hurdle overcome for us x x x

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Bella971
Bella971
in reply to Mumof3L

Yes it does thank you. He did go on cub camp last year and managed not to wet I think partly due to the lack of sleep but he was on some meds then and has nothing this year. It’s the smell that worries me I think they may be able to deal with the practicalities but people will notice the smell.

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Land03

Try goodnites tru-fit. It's what I use other than normal pull-ups

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