Clinic appointment

[mithical]

My 9 1/2 year old son has still been day wetting at times, if he isn't asked to go to the toilet regularly, he doesn't always get the message early enough.

We have a seminar to go to in a couple of weeks, at the enuresis clinic. As he hasn't wet for a little while, we are trying again with letting him go to the toilet on his own. I'd love to be able to cancel the appointment!

Summer holidays seems the best time to try the next step right? Lol Noone has ever explained how/when it's the right time to stop making them go, and allow them to go on their own!

So far he went to the toilet at 8am, and hasn't been again since. It's hard not to tell him to go, I'm asking him so many times if he feels he needs to.

Fingers crossed for us please lol

[CN4321]

Goodness it’s so hard isn’t it.

Does he drink lots of water? If my son doesn’t drink enough he won’t really feel the need to go and will leak a lot. If he drinks more the urge is stronger and he is more likely to go on his own accord.

One thing we have really struggled with is always asking him to go and therefore creating a dependence (and sometimes a resentment that we are always pestering) vs the stress that he is unlikely to make the decision. We have now settled on I tell him to go at set times (before we leave the house and before a meal) as that is common sense and something I think 8 year old boys will need reminding of anyway, but aside from that I only send him if I see him trying to hold onto it.

I should add though that he isn’t dry in the day yet as he has dysfunctional voiding and a twitchy bladder.

Good luck

[mithical in reply to CN4321]

Thanks for your reply. At home he does drink less than he should, will work on that. We get the resentment of always asking him to go to the toilet too. We have always asked before leaving the house etc as well.

[CN4321 in reply to mithical]

I have been through such a journey over the last few years which have been really stressful and spent an absolute fortune on alternative therapies which haven’t worked, but the biggest thing that has changed has been a general relaxation over the whole problem and trying to not be so involved with everything about it. Don’t get me wrong, we still have blow ups about it sometimes, and it’s really hard to step back, but I think my relaxing about it a lot more has led to a much happier home life and my son has responded positively.

It’s such a hard situation and sometimes I wonder if it will ever get better and the second guessing what we as parents should do about it is half the problem. I always wonder if I didn’t do enough or I did too much, remember you are doing a great job because you wouldn’t care this much if you weren’t.