Baby Shower Update

[Aardvarks]

So on Saturday I pulled up outside my friends house for the baby shower. I was early and no one else seemed to be there, so I started checking my messages to see what was going on…

I then found lovely essay in my messages that I had completely missed from the day before… It was an overly sensitive pregnancy announcement from another of our friends (not invited to the baby shower, just a coincidence). It went into great depth about MY feelings and that she was SORRY to announce to me that she was pregnant.

I completely broke down in my car.

After a while, I decided to go for a quick walk to get my head together. After all, this baby shower wasn’t about me and I didn’t want to take anything away from the parents day.

When I came back 15mins later, there was still no on there… Checked the invite, wrong address!

P.s. when I got to the baby shower, they had rented out a pub and decorated it to the standard of a wedding. There were over 50 people there. Although I had tried my best to mentally prepare for the event, it was a bit overwhelming as I was expecting a cup of tea and some sandwiches in my friends house.

[Elsiegreeneyes]

aw it’s so tough isnt it? I feel your pain and remember when everyone around me seemed to be pregnant or popping out babies, asking me to hold them and inviting me to showers. It got to the stage where I just couldn’t. I refused. I walked away from so many people, rejected their invitations and baby holdings. I know they didn’t really get it but the invitations stopped coming. I had to develop a thick skin and I’m not saying everyone should or can do what I did, but I put my needs first and I learned to treat myself gently and with so much compassion. I had to, to survive. Those who truly loved me understood and gave me space and time.

Well done for getting through such a tough day Aardvarks and I hope you’ve managed to find some time and space for yourself to grieve and show yourself some self care and love 💖