Fertility

[MarieC24]

Hi, if anyone has read my bio it will pretty much explain some of my journey (I didn’t want to bore you with everything).

I’ve just come back from an appointment at the hospital regarding our fertility, I have been taking Clomid but this has not been affective. They are now going to give me Prostap injections again to give my body a rest.

I have been told today I am not entitled to IVF on the nhs as my partner already has a child from a previous relationship, (his child is now 9). I explained to them how unfair this is as it is me with the condition and not my partner, it is me who will still not be able to have children if our relationship was to fail! I have come out deflated and heartbroken. With todays money issues and problems with government we physically can not afford the IVF so now I feel I have to just accept I will never have my own children 😢💔

[CryBaby91]

Hi Marie

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this crap ON TOP of having endo. Have you thought about writing to your MP to petition making IVF free for the woman regardless of her partners previous children, maybe with a clause that it has to be because of medical reasons? Might be worth just emailing them and explaining your story in full. Even if you don't get help with the IVF it will get your story out there!

Next, I wanted to say I was really sad reading your bio. I've been trying to deal with the fact that none of us know if the endo will grow back again, will we be ticking time bombs kind of thing. From everything I've read on here I'm guessing it does happen more often than not. I wish we all had more answers and better treatments that actually gave us a guaranteed permanent solution! Just wanted to say that you're not alone, sending massive hugs.

Xxx

[Cockapoo-2016]

Hi there.

I just read your story, it completely broke my heart.

I feel your pain and grief wanting a child so badly, you feel broken and asking ourselves why us.

Back I November last year I was diagnosed with endometriosis had a 8cm cyst on my left ovary and another one on my rectovaginal 6cm.

Back in April this year I found out from the ultrasound scan it's growing back.

I try and put a brave face that I can't have children most days I cry on my own, why me....

the pain I have in my heart everyday hurts me.

It doesn't make it easy when my partner sisters have children, it kills me. I love my partner nieces and nephew, like I am sure you love your partner child.

It's not the same as having your own, experiencing pregnancy etc.

NHS are absolutely disgusting that they won't let you have IVF because your partner already has a child, I just don't see the logic on there side.

I would start a petition and write a letter to your MP like the another lady mentioned on her message, get your voice out there.

Have you thought about adoption, I completely understand its not for everyone.

I am going through adoption process, as like you can't have children, endometriosis growing back having other health issues aswell and due to my age of being 44 yrs old.

Sending you hugs and keep fighting and I wish I had a magic wand 🪄 so we all can be endometriosis free.

Anna.🥺

[BloomingMarvellous]

This is heartbreaking. Can’t begin to navigate how you must be feeling. You deserve that chance. While going to your MP is important conscious raising exercise it is unlikely to provoke a swift outcome which is what you need. It’s not something have ever done but I know some folk needing care have set up Funding Pages. Costs are mad but it might be something worth putting out there. All the love 💕