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[Xroisinellenx]

Hi,

Some of you may no from past posts but I have stage 4 endo and finally have a surgery date yay 😁

But now I’m starting to worry, me and my partner want to have kids and we said we would start trying straight after my surgery but now I’m a bit like do I actually want to have a child straight away? Since September last year my endo has ruled my life and I have not been able to go to work at all this year, I’m lucky if I even get out the house at all now. I’m on morphine daily so I can’t drink I can’t go out cuz of pain I struggle to even do basic tasks around the house. So I’m just like shit do I actually want to then be pregnant after all the hell of endo? But then I’m like I really want a child I have always wanted to be a mum and want if this is my last chance?

Any advice? Thanks

[Moonglo]

It’s a real rollercoaster isn’t it? You’re right to think about all these things because children are 24h. How much is your partner going to help? Do you have family nearby? You’ll have a lot of things to discuss and I really encourage you both to be honest about how you feel about each thing, including the prospect of not having children, or adopting. You need to decide what you’re prepared to do and what you can live without. And then make your decision at each stage - there’s no point in worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet. Personally, I was unable to get pregnant through IVF but my husband and I decided my health and our happiness was more important than trying again and again.

[Kittykat8989]

Obviously the decision is ultimately down to you as it’s a mammoth one.

All I can say is from my experience, I expected TTC to be a piece of cake, so we started at the end of 2017. I got pregnant quickly then had a miscarriage, after the miscarriage I was in daily pain. Had 2 laps, diagnosis and excision of stage 4 endo. Recovery was long and took most of last year. We are now trying again nearly a year and a half later....

You don’t want to look back and wished you tried sooner. Which I kind of do now xx

[Pincpanther]

Only you know what’s right for your body and mind. Make sure you’ve totally healed first before trying. The stress that comes with trying to conceive is enough in itself. I really hope your surgery goes well and you get everything you want x