I lost my job around a fortnight ago. I find the thought of looking for a job now fills me with anxiety and I will avoid it at all costs. I know I really need to look in the new year.
As a dyslexic person I find starting a new job a daunting time. I feel it takes me longer to pick things up, and people can be very judgemental if they think you are weak and not performing.
My memory and task sequencing skill can be lacking at times.
Does anyone else feel the same way ?
Hello, I am very sorry that have lost your job, especially at this time of year. Believe me, you are not alone in the way you feel. I feel exactly the same way about starting anything new, and so anything work-related is very hard for me. I feel as though it's really obvious that I'm struggling with something, but in reality, it's not obvious to anyone but me. Because I feel that way I always work much harder than others to get things done, therefore people usually regard me as very hardworking and conscientious. They certainly get a lot for their money! Remember that being dyslexic doesn't show, people won't know anything about you and will see someone who is trying very hard to learn things and pick things up. I am sure that once you start and get the first few weeks over and done with you will be fine.
Keep in touch. Let us know if we can help you with anything at all.
Try not to worry over the holidays and try to have a nice Christmas. Hope this helps.
I too lost a job due to my learning disability. I hide it from everyone that it something that I have to deal with now. I couldn't even tell the human resource about it when they let me go or before. I am really tough on myself. I too have a bad memory!! Maybe this is why it is hard for me to talk about it. Reading this made me feel not alone. Thank you for doing this. I think this is the norm that mental or physical setbacks could hinder work ethics. It is a competitive world out there. At times, I don't have the assertiveness to function daily task; yet you ask me to work. I think this comes from me beating myself up for something that conditioned my mind to process this way. I think that I have to take care of my mind and body for longevity. It is my highly sensitivity that crashes to "negativity" that I need to support myself first. I learned that my treatable cure is to listen to myself!!
Dyslexics are great human beings - thousands struggle to achieve, but they do achieve. In my experience we have to work to our strengths - find the things we are good at and focus on them -even if it's just something small and seemingly insignificant, if you nurture it, it will grow, and positive things will follow. Taking care of yourself is an excellent way forward - listening to yourself - great! Follow that route, join classes of well-being and you will meet new people and who knows what will come of that. You're right you are definitely not alone. Good luck keep us posted.
Thank you, Giosang, for the support. I thought I would look at my account; as I was in bad spirit. I almost forgot about this. I was thinking of accepting my weaknesses as a defeit til I say this. You helped give myself a second chance. I will print this out. So I can read this as an inspiration daily!! I also printed out another thing that you said 5 months ago.
Keep strong.
Work on something you enjoy doing. Me I am bad at money and remember stuff, but I keep working on it and using what I am good at too move me forward I work hard and try my best. So I know how it feels just keep moving forward.
Keep going.
Keep a diary.
Keep getting more help.
Keep getting to know your limits and exceptional strengths.
Chomsky I am too an dyslexic started honours degree course four years ago just final finished ! During this time I experience people very judgemental only concentrated on my weakness not my strengths ! Like you suffer with anxiety unfortunately this comes with dyslexia causing an confidence issue !! I decided to proof them all wrong and now just finished with honours degree certificate!! I went on CBT programme to sort out my anxiety and confidence and mostly you need to accept your dyslexia and recognise your unique because this is within you ! Don’t let people bring you down it’s hard but you will be the strong person out of this ! Don’t let them win ! I have contacted access to work but you need a job for them to apply an assessment and put in adjustments ! It sounds like they have discriminated you fight this its against the law to discriminate someone with learning disability ! You have got this I was in your place once no more ! Good luck 😉
Starting a new job is so difficult. I’ve always told people in an interview, that way I can judge their reaction, if they flinch or react negatively, I don’t want to work for them. Most of the time people are very positive, I just explain, what I’d need from them to help.
‘BTW, I’m Dyslexic... this means I’ll need someone to spell check thing on occasions. But on the plus side, my problem solving skill are amazing and I’m great at fixing processes and overcoming challenges...’
Try to look at the things Dyslexia makes you better at! You think differently to other people, therefore you often come up with solutions no one else would have thought about
You can do this!
hello I am very sorry you lost your job, I to have often felt the same thing that you are going through, you can have your employer do a mandatory ADA training where they talk about people with dyslexia and have them teach your co workers with out mentioning your name how to handle you and talk with someone whos dyslexic. Your in by no means a completely incompetant person and should not be treated as such.
A dyslexic person do not want to talk about the difficulties because some time it can be considered as an excuse to home and work.
I am retired now, I did suffer very badly when I worked in British Railways in the 70's, I did not know at that time!, I was set up for a night shift alone, normally two people, the other person went sick. I was on my own, after outage the computer will not come on, I was asked by their plan to call for help. I refused and asked to extra time to do re cabling to fix the problem, I was given the time, the senior management were informed of my action. Any way after one hour the computer came on. The problem was before the outage I did question the re cabling but no one listened to me!! I fixed the problem but I did not listen for the call out and I was told it is important I must listen to senior management instructions . I just listened.
All these bad experience made me a stronger person and made me earn good money..
I moved to a different company in 1980 where they saw me fixing problem very quickly and I survived for 17 years. After that I moved into training with my knowledge to earn a living.
About 10 years ago my spelling mistakes in report were noticed, auto correct and my mistake, one of my team leader suggested I go for dyslexia check. I was given computer software to helped me with my typing and reading as the software did a text to voice translation.
I think about all the problems and difficulties experienced even now. At home I still have a hard time, Asian mentality!, not understanding the situation.
Take care.
I am in the same boat, find a job where you love doing. I love helping people and giving great customer service, so I am going into that. Work on your weakness and let your strength lead you. It's a struggle every day but it's up to you if want it bring you down and bring you up
Update from my last post
I need help for my 8 year old daughter.
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Is there any help out there for an adult with moderate dyslexia, who finds social situation and work situations very difficult?