Hello... loss of my brother

[Jewellze]

Hi, hello,I lost my brother on the 5th October due to multiple organ failure... he was alcoholic.

I also have an alcohol problem and I am hoping this is the right place to seek some help?

Thank you

Rach x

[SoberDrunk1]

I am sorry for your loss. I too lost my brother back in 1994 but I continued to drink till september 2006, becaues I thought, I didn't have a problem. I wasn't as bad a drinker like he was. But spiritual bankruptcy made me reachout for help. My shrink adviced me to seek a spiritual solution rather than using medication. He heard my family history and didn't want to go that route. I entered the fellowship of AA then and after being lost initially and once the fog cleared I took a deep dive into the book Alcoholics Anonymous. With the help of a sponsor and other resources I was able to get a good grasp of what powerlessness means and how it is so related to un-manageability of life. It kind of fed each other, hence the reminder of the 12 steps is very important in my life today. It keeps me sane and have lost the desire to drink since then. I would suggest, you read the chapter more about alcoholism and see if you can relate to the concepts laid out in the chapter (You may visit AA,org and access the online version of the book). You may also explore local AA meetings around where you live. You can google for AA meetings around where you live.

[Jampacked]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I completely agree with soberdrunk 1. This community can also offer additional advice, encouragement and online support. If you can, it might be wise to speak to a GP this would be strongly advisable in case you need a medical detox and support with your brothers death. It can be so dangerous to stop suddenly. If you feel unable to talk to a GP talk to AA or your regional Drug and Alcohol Team for advice. You can record and assess your alcohol intake on the 'Try Dry' app which has good links. You could read up using quit alcohol literature. It helped me to immerse myself in the sober world, books, people, recording Dry days. Cheering you on Jewellze, you are on the road to a far better sober place as so many of us are.

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador]

Alcoholism is a fatal disease. It will kill me if I drink. And unless I get and continue treatment, I am destined to have to drink. I found Alcoholics Anonymous 45 years ago and it hasn’t let me down since.

Keep posting on here. It will help you stay accountable.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[fauxartist]

I'm very sorry for your loss Jewellze.....and yes.... often alcoholism is a family disease in many ways.

[DicCarlson]

So sorry! Honor your brother with a conquest over booze! Many times I observe obese people in the grocery store or the mall and try to visualize them as athletes, thinner and in-shape. My father was an alcoholic to the point of mindless unintelligible speech. I now picture him as the creative, intelligent person that he could have been. Booze robbed him and many others of their potential - snuffed under a heavy wet blanket of addiction.

It is never too late to be sober. I'm approaching one year sober and couldn't be happier. Sure it's a big change, but oh so worth it!

[catsrock]

I'm very sorry about your brother. Big hugs.