Struggling with alcohol!

[Pippywoo]

Hi I am Si and I have always had a drink problem. I dont know why but when I start I can't stop. My wife has been asking me for 16 years to get help and I've always said the famous words I'll stop. Well yesterday she said she has had enough and we are finished. She no longer fells any attraction to me because I always stink of alcohol. I cannot argue with her she has relentlessly asked me.to change and I didn't. I am not angry with or I am angry at myself. It has taken this sledgehammer to make me realise I need to sort my life out. I drink most days, not all, I am happy to have a few days off and I don't feel the usual expected detox effects. I spent years in Afghan with my job and never drank a drop. I just can't stop once I've started. I'm stopping tomorrow and hope to be alcohol free. I've lost my marriage but I want to be the best dad I can. Any advice or guidance would be appreciated. Thanks in advance

[Callison]

There’s a lot of support and information online. As you’re a man I am assuming you drink beer. Try looking at ‘One year, no beer’. Also look at alcohol explained. Once on these sites they will lead you to other sites. Once you realize that alcohol in any form is just ethanol made seductive you’ll really want to give it up. Alcohol is one of the most addictive substances and it’s legal and actively promoted 😞. We only see it as a problem when we’ve been seduced into it. Good luck 👍.

[perciferous]

Hiya. I have the same problem. I can't just "have 1". If I do that, I can't stop. I'm on Day 295 of being alcohol-free today! It hasn't been easy BUT nothing worth having is ever easy. I was rushed into Hospital last year with a severe bleeding Gastric Ulcer. I'd weaned myself right off alcohol, been alcohol-free 4days & thought it was food poisoning. I went to bed (live alone) & after vomiting blood for a couple of days I eventually rang 999. I was delirious, severe blood loss & had a mild Heart Attack. My bed, bedroom, bathroom were like a Murder scene. I survived. This is what drinking does. Years of alcohol abuse eventually will ruin your life or end it in severe physical pain. My story is a lot more involved, but I'd be selfish to harp-on on here! I've given up drink before, again & again but this time I'm deadly serious. I've tackled this enemy in a different way & it's working. Alcohol is your enemy & you can find ways to beat it. I've found my mind to be my most powerful weapon...... that, and always trying to stay at least a step ahead. Sit down & really think about how you're going to beat this, what tactics can you use & how can you keep yourself safe from it. You will surprise yourself!

[Isinatra]

Hello 👋. I hear the seriousness of your situation. I’ve been sober since 2003. My simplest suggestion to you would be to check out or join AA to help you stop drinking and live a good life without alcohol. Some people turn to alcohol to self medicate. For that aspect I would suggest therapy in conjunction with AA. Try them both and give them enough time to help you. AA is free, their doors are always open….what do you have to lose?