Tired of failing

[Triciap]

I'm hugely over weight and turning 60 in the summer has made me realise I've probably been failing to diet and get fit for at least half my life. I'm aching from head to toe yet I've no illnesses so weight related - in other words - self-inflicted.

[Indigogirl Graduate]

You've taken the first - and hardest -step of admitting to yourself that something needs to be done. And look at your beautiful smile - with that and your new-found determination, you can do this!

Take it easy, be kind to yourself, baby steps in the right direction!

[Triciap in reply to Indigogirl]

Thank you. I'm on it.

[Irish-John Graduate]

Failure sucks! Forget all those sappy motivational posters about missing the aim for the moon but ending up among the stars ( you will die of lack of oxygen!)

However - one morning I woke up feeling pretty much like you and the thought hit me

" I don't want to wake up feeling like this at an age when there is not a damn thing I can do about it!"

So - in a very haphazard and chaotic and not very well thought out way - was batcrap stupid, crazy and unthinking really - I set out to change my life.

Has it worked? LOTS of failures and I still hate failing - damn little equanimity came with experience LOL - and to outside observers its all a bit of a mess and could be a huge mess down the road if a bit of luck does not continue to stay in the mix.

HOWEVER - have a friend who sorta took the same route and who is now in some of the biggest trouble in anyone's life where she is afraid she will lose her (extremely good) career, everything she has built up in thirty years - her home, pension, surroundings etc - and might have to return where we both came from 'in disgrace'. She did not do anything wrong but was conned by someone and now when I say she could lose EVERYTHING I am not kidding.

We are doing what we can to prevent this but it is very unsure if anything can.

Point is - at one stage she was on the phone in tears fearing the worst and 'turning out a failure - everyone who told me I was crazy to leave town and try for a decent life will turn out to be right after all" and more to that effect.

I asked her one simple question - 'No matter what happens, would you swop the last 28 years here doing what you have even if it ends up being the total disaster you fear - for the last 28 years in the safety and reletive security of where we both started from?"

The IMMEDIATE and vehement answer - maybe before she even realised it was coming out of her mouth - was 'No Way!!!"

Failure and heartache are awful and painful and traumatic - but balance all that against actually DOING something with the life we are given and how we feel in those first few moments when we wake up each morning

Wishing you the best of luck in your future

[Mummycav Administrator Graduate in reply to Irish-John]

Oh wow IJ...what a response!! I'm so sorry for your friend...how terrible being conned by someone & losing everything...life throws some terrible things our way but it's how we deal with that matters..we have to make the best of what we have and turn things around...we're all still breathing & living each day, waking up to see the sun & going to sleep seeing the moon, what happens in between we cannot always control but something inside us switches on & that's when we decide to change things...triciap...you've got a lovely smile & a twinkle in your eye, well done on making a start...I will be watching out for your posts & we're all here, helping you through your journey

[Hidden]

Well done for taking the first steps 👍 You won't lose weight by doing the programme alone but this in combination with a healthy eating regime should see good results😊

You will notice your body changing and toning as you start running, which is fab!

Choose some other exercise for the rest days; maybe walking, cycling or swimming. Take your time and enjoy the journey🏃🏃‍♀️🏃

[davelinks Graduate]

Well done! Good start! Me & my wife have done c25k in our early 60s although doing c25k is tough going, it feels great when I've recovered and that I can run..in time it does get a bit easier...you may not lose much weight if any on the programme, so really need to control the diet, I don't count calories, basically just avoid sugars and fats and drink plenty of water and that's a must to always stay hydrated, remember to run slow and steady, that's key to staying off the injury couch.. keep posting letting us know how it goes..😊

[Hidden]

nhs.uk/LiveWell/c25k/Pages/... - this is the link that started it for me and many others here.

Tricia what a wonderful smile you have, I see and I guess others do a very sunny looking lady.

Welcome to the best running club in the world, as you can already tell from the replies you've had, here you will find the nicest bunch of people prepared to help and support you through your journey.

We take it nice and easy on here, so when you've started and finished your first run please do post so we can cheer you on. We have two fab mentors on the site Oldfloss and IannodaTruffe so if ever you see one of their posts or a reply, you can be sure it's chockfull of wisdom.

I do hope this place helps you the way it has so many of us. Happy running

[HeleneCorsa Graduate]

Hello Tricia! I can only echo what the others have said.

What a lovely photo (and how can you possibly be turning 60?! You look fabulous).

This forum is a great help in making gradual but radical changes that can really improve your life no end, and it is brilliant to know there are people sincerely cheering you on as you succeed and lending you a hand as you falter.

Hope to 'see' you on here in the future!

[Downtwo]

Great photo, Tricia. I've done the first two weeks and am feeling much better already. This forum is very helpful. Some useful info from everyone else and plenty of encouragement. My theory is that doing anything to keep fit and keeping the weight down is a good thing. So go for it. We are all with you.

[misswobble Graduate]

Eat healthily, drink,sensibly and move! Once you've started moving, don't stop ✔️🏃‍♀️👍

Walk everywhere! The money saved on petrol and bus fares can be spent on running shoes 🙂

[Oldfloss Administrator Graduate]

Well.. well done for this very honest post... take some of the great advice from the replies and maybe take a peek at the Weight Loss forum too?

healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...

" Fear of failing, must never be a reason not to try something !"

[runtastic]

Your not alone. I was diagnosed with asthma at Christmas and was at least 3 stone overweight. Like you I ached everywhere and felt so poorly and down. I decided that the only one who could help me was me. I signed up for slimming world and have nearly lost 3 stone. I feel confident enough now to give this fantastic app a go to see what my body can do. It's never too late to make changes. Go for it! You'll feel amazing xx🙌🙌🙌