Coping with Dementia

[TriciaBee]

My husband's dementia has got a lot worse and very quickly. He thinks that I am some sort of carer who is taking my place. Friends say that I should talk to the doctor. We have recently moved so we haven't even met our doctor yet. What good would that do anyway. He is very abusive at times although only verbally. I sometimes actually wish that he would hit me- then I would have to do something. My husband of 54 years and the love of my life, is becoming a stranger. I know he must be suffering too but I don't know how to help him.

TriciaBee

[sassy59]

Hi Tricia, dementia is such a cruel disease that is robbing you of the man you married but you’re not alone. Get in touch with the Alzheimer’s Society and see if there is anything locally where you and your husband can get support.

Do see your GP as he may be able to help in some way. Don’t try and cope alone. I do wish you well. Xxxxx

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You need to contact a doctor and ask for an urgent neurological appointment. There are drugs that can help a bit and a referral to Adult Social Care can be useful. They may have suggestions to help. I have a husband with dementia and he was violent once leaving me badly injured. You need to put safety measures in place to protect yourself. Do take advice before it's too late.

Do send me a pm if you want to talk.

[5855]

My mum got the same , then she had a couple of falls , we had more tests done at the hospital , it was decided to lower her her Donepezil from 10mg to 5mg she'd been on them 5 yrs , and she was getting worse , but she's been on lower dose now 2months and much better even holding a better conversation , and she has a relaxant tablet at night,which is really helping ,she sees doctor once a month, and I'm in touch with dementia association and age concern if I need them , I'm hoping she's stays stable but it's A Wait and see Game , Mum only knows me and my sister and husband's, that it, but get in touch with his doctor , there is help out there x

[BRIAN1925]

It is very hard to see your soul mate disappear, but we do deal with it, it is surprising how we get through the bad days. It is necessary to go to your GP, as he needs his condition registering. No there is not a lot that can be done, however there is medication available that will help calm him,and he can set the ball rolling for other services that may help. Good luck & keep your chin up.

[Midori]

Your husband is still probably confused by the move; give him time to adjust to the new environment if you can, as long as nothing drastic happens.

I hope things improve.