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Nikki_T90
Nikki_T90

Evening guys i had a baby back in october 17 ... my tinnitus began then back then i didnt know what it was but after going to the docs and being referred to ENT i got the answer , my tinnitus was caused by the trauma of birth and the 2pints+ of blood i lost ...after loosing so much blood i was symptomatic anemia... im struggling at the moment dealing with it, i have a constant buzzing which gets louder whenever it wants

Feel im alone and no one understands, hoping things will get better

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Hello N,

I have had very loud constant T for 14 months now.

Initially it was devastating and I couldn't understand how I would ever cope with it, but if you just try and keep on with life as normal you will get to a point where you get used to it and most of the time you don't hear it if you are busy and concentrating on other things. It takes a long time, but it will happen to you.

Don't feel alone, there are plenty of people on here who understand totally and you will find support and understanding here.

There is no doubt the more you concentrate on getting on with life the more your T will recede to the back of your mind.

Take care and enjoy that new baby 😊

Nikki_T90
Nikki_T90
in reply to Curlew

Thank you :) just recently it has got louder and im struggling ..ENT said when i get stressed or worked up ill hear it more and oh do i ! Its a vicious circle as i suffer with anxiety too (since having little one ) so that works me up then my ears go then i get upset ....nightmare situation lol thanks for support x

berry76
berry76
in reply to Nikki_T90

Hi Nikki. My tinnitus started at a time of severe stress in 2003 - or at least that's when I first noticed it and then focussed on it and so it became a large part of my existence - but certainly as I push it out of my mind and 'get practical and sociable' it's forgotten. So don't forget your emotions will be disturbed greatly after the birth of a baby and, apparently, our limbic (emotion) system is very close to our auditory centre so they are intertwined. My husband died in October - and the sadness and tiredness are not good partners for tolerating tinnitus. Spoil yourself whenever you can - and welcome your new babe to the wonders of the world.

Curlew
Curlew
in reply to berry76

Sorry to hear about your sad loss B. I lost my lovely mum last November. She was elderly and had had Alzheimer's for a long time so in many ways it was a relief, but she was still my lovely mum😊 I just keep living my life as she would like to see me doing and I am sure you do the same.

Tinnitus can be a daily grind, but there are so many things in life that are so much more important we just have to work at it till it becomes easier and, sadly, our new norm!

Take care.

berry76
berry76
in reply to Curlew

Thanks for the moral support, Curlew.

Every best wish.

Nikki_T90
Nikki_T90
in reply to berry76

So sorry for your loss :( ... im tackling it 1 day at a time but i think with everyrhing going in its a the forefront of my mind its a vicious circle ... ive tried natural noises ie leaving windows open, listen to music/sounds it just over powers everything

NicBTA
NicBTAAdministrator

Hello and welcome to the British Tinnitus Association forum Nikki_T90. Do feel free to ask any questions, I hope that you find this a helpful and supportive place to help you manage your tinnitus.

Tinnitus often is triggered by change - and you went through a huge physical experience giving birth and now living with a baby. Tinnitus does generally get better over time, particularly if it has been linked to a time of physical or mental stress, and as you recover from that.

We have some resources that you might like to check out in addition to our home here:

tinnitus.org.uk

takeontinnitus.co.uk

Helpline 0800 018 0527 (Monday-Friday 9am-5pm) (outside the UK you can call +44 (0)114 250 9922)

Warmest wishes

Nic (BTA Communications Manager and Forum Administrator)

Hi! I know tinnitus is scary at first. To be completely honest, any pain I still feel about tinnitus is truly just psychological. As in yes, sometimes my ears make noises, it is not just my brain making these noises and it is real, but when I sit and focus on it that is when I feel it has defeated me. Psychologically, if I sit and obsess over it, that is the only time I feel defeated. If I am living my life with the sounds still there, but I am spending my time doing productive things and not obsessing, I do not feel defeated. I have gotten to the point where tinnitus typically does not bother me though and I do not obsess nearly as much. Lately I have been anxious about life events so I have been noticing it more at night, as my anxiety seems to amp it up and also make me focus on it. But honestly after suffering for some time with it last Fall/Winter, I feel like myself again and the tinnitus is like nothing to me. To me, cured either means it is gone, or I feel like myself again and I am living my life, even with tinnitus. You will be at peace again, I promise. It might be a bit of a journey but it will happen. What I like to remind myself of is that everyone has some tinnitus to an extent. I ask people all the time if they have tinnitus experiences and they do most of the time. And I recently found out my grandpa has had it for 50 years and until my Mom told him I have tinnitus, he never made a peep about it and that is how unimportant it is to him. I have known him for 20 years and we are close. My mom’s friend has it and it is merely just sometimes an annoyance to her and that is it. And I remember noticing it when I was a kid, before I had any medication for acne or any ear issues, I was lying in bed and I remember thinking “huh, I heard noises in my ear”. I also remind myself that there are always plenty of background noises in my life anyways like AC, heating units, TV, people talking, bugs, etc., so background noises are nothing new and I equate tinnitus to background noise when I can and go about my day. Because I surely don’t care about the heat going on or my family talking, etc. I also view tinnitus as a bodily function I just gotta deal with, like a headache or going the bathroom. Both of those things are annoying but I don’t spend my days getting upset about them, because they are facts of life for me. Same with tinnitus. Sometimes it will annoy me, but then I go and focus on other things. I wish you the best, it will all be alright and you will feel like yourself again, even with tinnitus.

Hi I've had it for 37 years. I've posted a lot recently as I've been going through a bad spell, but I'm back to normal now. The noise is still there, but It's not bothering me at all. During both my pregnancies my t was bad, but over a few months it just becomes unimportant again.

You'll be fine, just enjoy your baby and keep busy.

Ingrid xx

Angela-H
Angela-H
in reply to Ingrid-p

Hi Ingrid, pleased to read that you are in a good place again.

Angela xx

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