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Volunteered to help support someone at a meeting i attended. Just asking for a bit of advice please.

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Hi

I’ve decided to support someone at my meeting “mentor “ as I feel strong enough to do so now.

He has chirrosis and is seeking help with the desire to stop drinking eventually. I wondered if there’s anything he can do to improve his health regarding diet etc whilst although cutting down still consuming alcohol.

I appreciate nobody is medically trained and was just looking for some sort advice to pass on in anyway. He unfortunately has to still have drink to wean him off of it at the moment. I’m just wondering if he can help himself additionally regarding anything else - he is under lots of support groups and I’ve told him to join here too.

He is currently waiting for his next consultation with his doctor currently 5 months away .

Thank you

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Dear Etymolog

It's very kind of you to become a mentor, here are the links to some information about cirrhosis, diet and alcohol related liver disease, which you may find useful to share with him

britishlivertrust.org.uk/in... (including a suite of publications towards the bottom that are downloadable or can be posted)

britishlivertrust.org.uk/in...

britishlivertrust.org.uk/in...

If they don't already know of our nurse-led helpline and they would find it useful to talk things over, our nurse-led helpline is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 4pm on 0800 652 7330 (excluding bank holidays)

Best wishes

British Liver Trust

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Etymolog in reply toBritishLiverTrust8

Thank you

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Richard-Allen

May I say Etymolog, how wonderful it is of you to want to help this man?

No two people's alcohol journey is the same, but one thing you both have in common is empathy. That can be a powerful connection to have. But just a word of caution. Try not to become too attached and keep your relationship a professional one. Try and help the person to want to change, and not try to change them.

Many people on here have been down that dark alcohol road, but many of us have reached the end and are alive today as proof that it can be done, that there is a road back again, and that an alcohol-free life is pretty good one.

As the alcohol problem takes hold, the reason why a person ends up going down this road can become lost and a person ends up drinking because they have to, and not because they choose to. There are many reasons as to why a person may use alcohol. A lack of confidence, as a form of self-medication to deal with a traumatic experience, bereavement, or mental health issues like Bipolar.

I’m sending you a link privately to my website on Alcohol-related Liver Disease. This has been put together from a personal perspective and not so much a medical one.

Wanting to help others is a noble act. For you, it has its rewards, as helping others will strengthen your resolve a bit like turning a negative time in your life, into a positive one. That positivity will empower you to want to make a difference.

Another aspect you might consider is becoming a PPI representative. Many liver research studies and projects engage people like us with lived experience. We play a vital part in any study, as many of the doctors and professors involved see things through medical eyes. They need a person with lived experience to speak from the patient's perspective: nihr.ac.uk/ppi-patient-and-...

Many of the larger hospitals now have a PPI department and the British Liver Trust sometimes advertise forthcoming liver-related studies on their website so keep an eye open.

Once again well done in wanting to help others, be proud of yourself.

You have a kind heart.

Good Luck

Richard

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