My husband finally came home from hospice on Wednesday, and after slipping into a coma on Thursday evening he passed away last night at 9pm. I am completely and utterly lost at sea, my heart is shattered into a trillion pieces. Yesterday morning I was a wife, this morning I am a widow.
Thank you to everyone on this site for all your help, support and guidance throughout this rollercoaster ride that is cirrhosis. I don't know how I am going to get through this, but I know I have to. Right now I just feel just so lost.
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You have my deepest and most profound sympathy. What your husband endured is beyond imagining, but the pain you are feeling is just as bad. Seeing somebody go before their time is utterly awful.
My thoughts are with you at this sad time. You have been through so much. I wish you lots of strength and peace. Be kind to yourself, the process of loss takes its time x
Although it seems impossible now you will get through it and the lonely days and nights will get easier, just take one day at a time and ask for help when you need it. I’m 3 years on from losing my husband, I do still miss him and sometimes I get cross with him for leaving me to cope on my own but I can cope and life goes on.
So sorry for your loss, take comfort in you full filled his wishes to come home and he passed away peacefully no doubt having heard you tell him frequently of your love for him.
Some of the pain will eventually pass and you will remember back to better times. He'll be in your heart always.
My wife and I wanted to offer our most sincere condolences and cannot say anything that will make any difference to this terrible position your in. Truly hope that if you ever need to talk, FaceTime etc don’t hesitate to contact us.
I have no words to comfort you or ease the heartache, bewilderment, justified anger, despair, confusion…..the list of descriptions is endless, as is the pain you are suffering now. Words just won’t cut through it all.
My hand is reaching through this message to hold yours, tightly and with genuine compassion.
With absolute certainty know that we on this site, care deeply for you, such is that bond caused by liver disease no matter how it was caused. Never, ever be hesitant to get in touch, no matter when and no matter even if it’s to say nothing.
To me you are superhuman, an amazing individual with a huge loving heart. I don’t want to say “take care of yourself” as I associate that with goodbye and I truly hope that not to be the case and that you’ll contact us/me when you feel up to it.
I’m so sorry to hear your sad news. You’re never prepared for this and feeling lost is absolutely understandable. It’s one of many emotions you’ll be feeling over the coming days. Sending you strength and love x
I am so sorry to hear your sad news and my thoughts are with you at this dreadful time . You have been so caring and your love for your husband shines through your words. Sending you love and hope in time your happy memories together bring you some comfort Carol xx
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have read your posts and know how much love and care you have your husband, I hope you have loved ones taking care of you. xxx
So sad to read this .Take comfort knowing you did everything you could and what a fighter you are such a brave lady .Go easy on yourself find what you love and take your time to build your life going forward sending you hugs x💕
So very sorry to hear this news. All I can do is reinforce all that has been said in the messages above. You are in many people’s thoughts and prayers today.
No words can express how you are feeling at this very, very sad time in your life. Take comfort that you were there for your dear and loving husband when he passed away. In his heart, he will have known you were there and did all you could within your power to help him. Please remember your brilliant times together and, I am sure he will be watching you from the heavens and will never forget. Thoughts and hugs. x
We're so sad to read this, and very sorry for your loss.
With best wishes from all at the British Liver Trust
I am so, so sorry for your loss 💔 I wish you all the strength in the world to help you get through this. My heart goes out to you. Take good care of yourself 🙏❤️🙏
You have been through so much and you're not done yet, grief is so draining, especially after what you've been through with your love. Please care for yourself and know you have a bright life still ahead.
My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. Its heartbreaking 💔 and I know what you mean when you say you feel totally lost. It is 4 months since I lost my darling husband and I get through the days knowing he tried so hard to stay for me but in the end his body could not suffer the pain and discomfort. I wouldn't want him to suffer again. Hopefully you will cope knowing your
husband will stay in your heart forever.
Sending virtual hugs and try to keep strong brave lady. Xx
Time heals. Someday you will get to a stage of your grieving where you can cope. For me I thought I would never get over it and you never do but I learned to go through it, acknowledge how I was feeling. I embrace grief now when waves of sadness come knowing tears are healing and I cherish my memories. It does get easier. Deep peace is I would imagine is the ultimate bliss and your loved one is there now.
I lost my husband a year ago to ALS. It was mind numbingly dreadful. Now we tend to recall funny things he did. I still miss him as my best friend. You'll never get OVER losing him but you will get THROUGH it. Stay busy. It really does help. I'm on this site because our son was recently diagnosed with cirrhosis.
I am ever so sorry for your loss. You’ve been the best wife. Supporting your husband through this awful ride. With liver disease. Now it’s time to take care of yourself. Just think about the good times you had together. And no, you did the best you possibly could. I will be keeping you in my thoughts.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending you huge hugs. You must be so exhausted both mentally and physically. Be kind to yourself, be angry, be scared but never feel guilty. You supported and loved him through the hardest of times. Take as much time as you need, we are never prepared for these things. xx
My heart goes out to you. This is truly a lot for you to take in. Every single person grieves in their own way and it is a process individual to each of us. Try to take each day and each night slowly. You have a lot to cope with and this can't be rushed. Don't bottle up your emotions - they need to come out. Don't compare how you are coping with how others are coping. You need to come to terms with everything in your own time, in your own way. My thoughts are with you at this terribly sad time x
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