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If you improve does your sex drive return

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Hi mate, yeah I had no drive at all. Not now I'm like a porn star lol

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CHRISR999 in reply to CHRISR999

Now I'm like a porn star lol

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Moux1 in reply to CHRISR999

Lol

No so far in my hubbies case, stable now for 5 years but zero function or interest.

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Dogbot in reply to AyrshireK

Hi AyrshireK if your husband goes to the doctor and explains he my very well give him a prescription for Sildenafil (Viagra) . When I lost my drive the doctors were very helpful, but it’s not a miracle you don’t just take it and it happens you have to be part of it, good luck I really hope it helps.Stay Safe All

Dogbot 🐶🌈Dave

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AyrshireK in reply to Dogbot

What you've never had you don't miss so it really isn't an important part of our relationship - he was ill when I met him obviously and we only married after his diagnosis. It'll be his hormones that are wonky so getting function without the interest isn't going to do anything for him.

We can survive without bedroom acrobatics. :)

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Moux1 in reply to AyrshireK

Of course we can lol and you’ve proved it to be true , take care xx

I had 0 sex drive and wondered why. Dr tested my testosterone and it was borderline. 1.5 years later I found out about my liver. After around 8 months of No alcohol and eating healthier it returned but not like Chris’s has. 😂

only with daily testosterone gel and stopping anti depressants in my case. But it is back good and strong.

Yes generally but sometimes you might need a little help, go to your doctors and tell them they may prescribe Viagra to help it works but your partner has to help, good luck I felt terrible when I had no drive much better now, good luck.Stay Safe All

Dogbot 🐶🌈Dave

PS 👍 Chris 🤣😂

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Moux1 in reply to Dogbot

Thank you , I keep telling him that it’s not important to me but I think he feels less of a man because of it , so understand your meaning thanks for replying

Looking at your recent posts your husband has been very ill very recently and his tackle has been swollen.Most wife's would be more worried about him surviving long term that his performance in bed.

He is sick and frightened, his mental state alone will kill his libido.

Give him time and sympathy.

In sickness and in health!

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Moux1 in reply to Roy1955

Hi Roy thanks for your input , it’s me that is researching and looking things up , but for your information he asks the questions and I look it up. I have done and am doing everything I can to help him , I have every sympathy for him and I actually think it’s my doing that has helped him improve . I’m well happy with my mug of Horlicks and a book so please don’t judge me and assume that I am more interested in his performance. It’s me that hardly sleeps , cries and has palpitations from the worry while he snores. I gave no indication that I was wanting sex so feel that there was no need for your angry reply. Have a nice day 😊

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Roy1955 in reply to Moux1

Sorry if I offended.He is very new to all this (so are you) and his mind is going 100mph.

Things will settle into a new normal but it takes a while.

I don't agree with the suggestions of more tests or trying viagra.

Might cause harm.

The turmoil of recent events is enough to even put Casanova off for a few months.

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Moux1 in reply to Roy1955

Lol, it’s my mind that goes 100 mph . I work for the NHS and am used to research but have never touched upon liver disease. In a short time I now know about Meld, UKELd, Child Pugh , KPA and CAP scores . Levels of Alt, AST , bilirubin, albumin and platelets etc. I’ve looked into salt/ sodium restrictions whilst looking at increasing his protein intake for him to gain weight and get his muscle back. Although he’s not at the stage of varices, ascites, nose bleeds, and dark urine and stools ( only once had mild ascites 🤞🏽) , I’m up on this too . I’ve secretly put my knee replacement on hold as I know he would try to help me but his well being is far more important to me . Believe me , I’ve asked , researched, look up diets, recipes and everything that I can . The only question I didn’t ask and the only question he did was about sex drive which I can assure you was the furthest from my mind . He is my world and every step he takes I take two so that I’m ahead and prepared to help and reassure him .

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Dobielove in reply to Moux1

Well Said ❤️😘xxx

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Moux1 in reply to Dobielove

Thank you, I’m out of breath now 😂

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Dobielove in reply to Moux1

You go girl 🤣😂🤣💗

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Moux1 in reply to Dobielove

Lol, are you ok , I seem to remember you having a lot to deal with too ? I’ll look back on your posts xx

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Dobielove in reply to Moux1

Yeah been through it, thought 2022 couldn’t get any worst than the last two years how wrong could I be! Been in a very low place couple of weeks ago but I finally had a total breakdown in cried for 5 hours as I haven’t really grieved the lost of my Brother as I have been trying to sorted out things out for my parents as it been a nightmare with his wife as she made the funeral private so I couldn’t find out where or when it was happening then I found out that she and her parents where not going attend his funeral so that was extremely hard like his life had not meant anything. Still got the coroner’s inquest to come then hopefully we’ll get some closure just hope his in a better place away from that crazy B**** my friend summed it up best she said she controlled him in life and in death.

We’re still no further forward with my Husbands cirrhosis they are defo in no rush to get answers on what is causing it as it’s not related to alcohol. He been very poorly the last few days with Mirgraines, being sick and diarrhoea. He’s the same with his sex drive not been the same since he was in ICU in 2017! When the nurse knock his bottle of the side of his bed which was connected to his Catheter and nearly dragged him out of bed with his penis!

Hope you and your hubby get some help but I’m the same sooner read a good book LOL 😂❤️😘xxxx

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Moux1 in reply to Dobielove

Oh how awful for you and what a bi**h she sounds , how do people live with themselves and not to have anyone at a funeral must be so hard for you to accept. Re your hubby can you go private for a consultation ? Where do you live as I think waiting lists vary in different regions to be seen . How are you doing re health wise ? xx

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Dobielove in reply to Moux1

Knew there would be trouble when they announced they we’re getting married but never in a million years thought it would end in suicide, divorce yeah and him losing his beautiful half a million plus house but here we are just over 4 years of marriage and he’s gone forever 45 years old! Going to be hard to control myself when I see her at the inquest of course that is if she can be bothered to turn up I think she’ll try to get a Dr letter saying she to upset to attend as she a witness.

Re Hubby

He’s had a telephone appointment in January we’re he was sent in hospital for blood test and to get his leg checked his he keeps getting cellulitis on his calf so been on antibiotics for months just don’t seem to be able to get it clearer up. His Doctors said if they don’t get any answers from the bloods as to the cause of the cirrhosis they have to do a liver biopsy but was reluctant due to his weight despite him losing 6 stones. So just a waiting game with them all the time, going to get on to PAL see if they can get things moving. How’s things with your husband and yourself I hope you have support to it easy to forget about your well being when you are looking after a loved one.

I’m okay have to be, got an appointment in May with my rheumatoid specialist and as far as I know my kidneys are still working at 30% not been very good keeping up with my monthly bloods with all that been going on probably get told off 😂🤣😂

I love a good book just downloaded three Karin Slaughter audiobooks so they take my busy for a couple weeks highly recommended her if your looking for a new read.

Good Luck with everything and remember to look after yourself too❤️😘xxx

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Moux1 in reply to Dobielove

Oh my you really are going through it , it’s so sad about your brother and I can tell how much he is missed by you . I hope your bloods are ok when you get there and hopefully your results re your kidneys and rheumatoid are either stable or improved. My hubby too suffers with cellulitis, his are on both legs and end up weeping with horrendous sores . He doesn’t respond to oral flucloxicillan and ends up with district nurses coming to our home to administer antibiotics IV x

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Dobielove in reply to Moux1

Your poor husband bad enough having cellulitis in one leg let alone both it’s awful so painful but it’s sounds like your husband as it worst than Andrew his is red, hot, sore and itchy but no weeping sores. It makes you worry about want the antibiotics could be doing to their body specially with all the problems they have already. If you ever need to sound off to someone who understands what you are going through you can DM me anytime Cheers Deb…x

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Moux1 in reply to Dobielove

Thank you , I have messaged you , not to sound off tho lol xx

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Moux1 in reply to Dobielove

And lol I prefer a good Martina Cole xx

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Dobielove in reply to Moux1

😂🤣😂

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Moux1 in reply to Dobielove

Am I ok to pm you x

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Dobielove in reply to Moux1

Yeah course no problem ❤️😘x

Get a test for T levels mine was down at 9 n/mols right at the bottom boundary. Back upto 24 n/mol and feel like I am 25. I noticed lack of use seem to have led to shrinkage but if use viagara this really helps open up your blood vessels and boosts your size. Regular sex is great for your physical and mental health I do pressups every day and the T boosts your muscle mass. The downside is that T replacement is a one way street once started you will need to continye it. I had raised haemoglobin now back to normal and regular PSA checks for my prostate 0.34 so all good. Ask your GP for a referral to urology they know their stuff.

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Moux1 in reply to Iro1

Thank you for the information I will pass it on to him

I am female so I know hormone levels will be different but I had my hormone levels checked and then I was put on some tablets, like the pill, to increase the hormones to be where they should be. My doc said this reduction is all caused by the liver cirrhosis or how the liver is able to function. Anyway the tablets helped me immensely. I would presume there is a similar test for men.

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Moux1 in reply to jazzjam

Thank you I will show him these answers , it’s not that important to me but can understand that it’s a male thing for him , take care

Closeness, pillow talk, bodies next to each other ….. Surely that is important for everyone? Especially if you love each other? Our bodies alert us to when something is wrong. And we can be brave and put all that aside, as you have had to do, but it is something you and your lovely man are allowed to miss and grieve for. So fingers crossed! It is not everything, but let’s admit it is something. Take care, both of you,

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Moux1 in reply to Kingsleybones

Thank you so much , that is a lovely way to put it, you take care too .

Hi there, just wondering ‘if you improve’ what? My libido is rock bottom. 🥺

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Moux1 in reply to An1063

I just meant he has improved a lot since months ago as he was having falls, very dizzy and had horrendous cellulitis, he has started to gain weight and eat a lot more. It was a question he’d asked and I didn’t know the answer to hence me putting it out there

Thanks and good luck to you both.

this seems to be about men what about women , and how cirrhosis has affected their sex life.

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Moux1 in reply to Doechloe

Maybe make a post and ask

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AyrshireK in reply to Doechloe

Women with liver disease often lose their sex drive too - some of the livers jobs include hormone regulation etc. So, it's not just men and there have been previous threads on the subject. I recall that one female poster (JoJo) did end up having testerone treatment to regain her drive - post transplant I think.

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There are more posts on the top - yes it's mainly guys that are posting or loved ones of male partners but there are the occasional females. If you search posts for 'Sex Drive' you'll find other posts on the topic.

Katie

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Doechloe in reply to AyrshireK

its that mine is complete the opposite so wondering because with losing weight and exercise tha it has made all the different s to me ,

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