Moved Brother to Hospice

[Jag9380]

My brother was finally stable enough to be moved out of ICU to Hospice. Unfortunately his body has no more fight in him. His liver function is virtually zero and Kidneys haves failed and continue to get worse doctors think within the week.

I don’t think he fully understands the gravity and impending end which breaks my heart. He’s very grumpy/angry and keeps thinking he’s going to get to go home. My hope is the meds will calm him and make sure his pain is minimized. This seems like a virtually identical ending as my father but he was not awake where my brother has moments of lucidness. I will leave to travel to go see him tomorrow so hopefully that will bring him some joy.

[Dobielove]

HiJag9380 So sorry to hear your sad news about your Brother I am sure your visit will give some happiness Take Care sending you lots of Love and Hugs Deb in the UK

[Zukosmile07]

Thoughts are definitely with you.....I'm sending you some love 💌❣️❣️

Anyone who knows, will sympathise with you.

Keep strong, I know it's hard. See if you can create a smile.

Danny x

[Positive001]

So sad ! Make the day as happy as you can. Thoughts are with you . Take care.Laura x

[Ewife]

My thoughts are with you. Take careXx

[Hidden]

We hope the hospice staff and palliative care team can support your brother and the family throughout this very difficult time.

Warm wishes from us all.

[Dogbot]

Sorry to hear that news , I’m sure he will be pleased to see you. Good luck my thought’s are with you 💕.Stay Safe All

Dogbot 🐶🌈Dave

[Hdon]

Hope you don't mind my asking, is there an identified reason why you, your brother and father have/had liver disease/cirrhosis?

[Jag9380 in reply to Hdon]

No I don’t mind, my liver doctor basically said there is obviously some genetic pre-disposition but nothing specifically identifiable. My father and brother were both drinkers. My variety is of the NAFLD variety.

[Hdon]

Genetics was where I was coming from really. Have you ever had your iron levels checked? I have Genetic Haemochromatosis which runs in families and can cause liver disease and cirrhosis. See haemochromatosis.org.uk/com... worth a check if you haven't already had it done.

[Jag9380 in reply to Hdon]

Yes I’ve been tested for Hemochromatosis, tumor markers, the works all my blood work has been pretty good minus the occasions high enzymes. Unfortunately seems our family is just prone to bum livers. Lifestyle choices and addiction are the culprit of course but just can take as much as others I guess.

[Hdon in reply to Jag9380]

Ok, thought I’d ask as it often gets missed, best wishes to you at this difficult time.

[Readlots]

I’m glad you’ve managed to get your brother into the hospice, I know how worried you were about him being on his own refusing help. Hospices are amazing places and I think you’ll feel better for seeing your brother in that environment. Is your Mum going with you? It may bring back even more of the feelings you had of losing your Dad so be prepared and be kind to yourself. It’s so hard going through this when you have liver issues yourself, but you’re not your brother or your Dad and you’re looking after your liver. Sending you love and strength to help you through this difficult week.

[Aotea2012]

Hospices are amazing places. They are geared up to help with situations such as your brothers. Not only will they care for him, they will provide support to you and your family. It’s a very difficult time but you can feel assured that your brother is in the best possible place. Thinking of you. Take care.

[Jamsponge]

I’m so sorry to hear this, I had the same experience with my sister. It’s heartbreaking Stay strong, one day at a time x