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Curved Ball, time to think

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Good morning to you all, having had a liver transplant in France in 2014 and not fully recovering due to multiple other problems my life style had to change for the better, I developed Lymphedema, mainly in my left arm and legs, struggled with my weight but generally got on with things as been given a second chance, my transplant was not due to excessive alcohol, and I have never smoked, except for the first 17 years of my life where I re breathed smoke from my parents!! My worst recent experience was the Benefit system, never in my life have I come up against such people and such double standards in questions, well going through that buying a house and family problems I finally lost it, full blown nervous breakdown, I wanted my wife to have the forever home she so much wanted and hid all the problems for her, well if you have read this far you must be thinking come on man pull it together your alive, yup I think that as well, never thought I would be so unhappy, I have a fantastic second wife, who with her only daughter moved in with me and took on my five kids, left with me when my first wife run off with the county football team!!! Well it seemed so at the time, my wife stuck with me as did the rest of my kids, thought I was finally coming out of the woods, we employed a company to sort out the many problems with our new house, (my wifes idea to take the stress off me) and things generally picked up, Two Thursdays ago I was taken into Southampton General Hospital with severe abdominal cramps, I was met with a regime from the Covid Virus and total professional people, I went to a side room as my records had flagged me up as having a compromised immune system, where I went from x ray, to an MRI to the operating theatre, my small intestine had ruptured, I lost 3 days in ICU finally come too on the recovery ICU ward, Now back home, where guess what, my lovely wife yet again has me to look after, my god has this woman got some patience, she was already working from home shielding me, now she is virtually a prisoner.

BUT what I have learnt again, is don't be a prat, if you cannot do what you once did, find something else, and do not moan, life is precious live it.

My one question is the gut churning stress and anxiety I went through responsible for my sudden rupture?

My thanks to the NHS is without question, unbelievable compassion from people you don't know!!

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Good morning Jumbot,

Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear of all you have experienced. With regards to your small bowel rupture, it may be worth discussing any identifiable cause with your doctors? They may not have an answer for you , but it may help your recovery to talk through your recent events.

Take care,

Trust9

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Yes, thank you, I have the Head of the Southampton liver team on the case, who is wanting answers, and the same has been suggested by the french Professor who carried out my surgery, I keep in touch with, he is very good at answering questions, he also puts them in an understandable form.

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Yellowsydney

Sending love and hugs, you have been through a lot and come through the other side. Hope your recovery goes smoothly❤

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