Fly high my angel no more pain - British Liver Trust

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Fly high my angel no more pain

Hi All

It is with the heaviest of hearts that I write this post. I am broken. At only 48 years old my partner passed away early hours of Thursday we were with him every step of the way. He was comfortable and peaceful. I have never felt pain in the way I did yesterday having to tell my children that Daddy had died. You were all so caring and concerned for us all I wanted to let you know. He fought the hardest of battles but in the end the disease won. His body could not take any more. And though the liver disease was the greatest factor the infections over the last few months took over and he never got the chance to be well enough for the transplant assessment.

We are lost and now I have to help my children heal and recover and live a life that is so different to the one we have known..

Thank you all for the messages, the advice but most of all the love and empathy I have received.

Ann

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So sorry to hear this Ann. My thoughts are with you & your children. xx

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So sorry to hear about your partner, best of luck with the dark days ahead. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Mark

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So very sorry to hear this Ann, sorry he never got well enough to have the transplant assessment. Thoughts with your and your children at this very sad time.

Katie xx

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Ann, I can't begin to imagine how you or your family are feeling, to lose your husband so tragically . I too lost my sister to this disease aged 41, that was 9 years ago. It's just not fair!!

I know you have very challenging times ahead, so I hope you have plenty of support. Please continue to use the forum if you feel it would help.

I'll be thinking of you, and sending you my heartfelt sympathy.

X x

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Oh Ann, really so sorry to hear this. Love and thoughts to you and yours. Chris xx

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I am so very sorry for your and your children's loss. Take strength from each other to help you through each day.

Love Laura xx

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I am so so sorry to hear this Ann. My thoughts are with you & your children. Like Wass71 says, please do continue to post here if you feel it would help - we are all here for you xx

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I’m so sorry Ann. I’m sending love to you and your family.

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My heart goes out to you and your family. I pray you will all find some peace. So sad for your loss.

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Oh I am sorry for you my love. I cannot imagine how you feel. Some here have a better idea. All I can say is love those kids as hard as you can. They are a living proof of your shared love with your partner.

I imagine it will be tough, please ask for help, from the family or friends, but more importantly psychological help for the kids or you if needed.

Sending you a massive hug.

Isabelle xx

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R.i.p ❤️

And I hope in time you and your family can heal x

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I’m so very sorry for your loss Ann. Sending prayers and warm thoughts to you and your children for the difficult days ahead. Char

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So sorry for you and your children's loss Ann. Take comfort in the good memories and forget the bad.

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Sorry to hear about your loss, I know how you are feeling. Stay strong and remember the good times.

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There are no words.... But I wish an abundance of love and support to you and your children. Thinking of you all, God Bless xxx

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So sorry Ann, there’s never the right words to say that will help. Sending heartfelt love to you and your children. I’ll keep you all in my prayers. Jane xx

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I’m so sorry for your families loss! Prayers for peace.

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Awful news I am so sorry.

Thinking of you and your children at this very difficult time xx

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Hi Ann,

I am so deeply sorry for your loss.

Our thoughts are with you and your children with wishes for the strength to get through this and go forward.

Deepest sympathy,

Mary

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Hi Ann, I’m so sorry to hear your sad sad news. I too lost my husband to liver disease when my children were young. It’s them that kept me going. Please remember to keep reaching out in these of toughest of days. My thoughts are with you all. Samantha

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I am so sorry to read if your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this truly sad time xxx

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So so very very sorry. My deepest sympathy to you and all your family. You are all in my thoughts

Elizabeth

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So sorry for your loss ❤️

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So sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your Children. 🙏Life can be brutal. God is Timeless and preparing a place so you all to be together forever🙏🙏🙏

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So sorry x

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I’m so sorry Ann! My thoughts are with you and your family! Xxx

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So sad,hope you and your family are coping-I know it is very hard to come to terms with take care

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Hi Ann

My thoughts and wishes are with you.

Gill x

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Oh Ann - so so sorry to hear this. Like everyone else I am wishing you all the best in this so sad situation.

Milesxx

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So sorry Ann, the reality of this disease is so final. There are bereavement groups for the children which will help all of you. In my area it’s penhaligans friends. Keep in touch with us. Julie

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Ann

So sorry to hear of your loss, It bring home how lucky I have been.

My thoughts and prayers are with you

David

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My deepest sympathy to you and your family Ann. My thoughts and prayers go out to you all. Please keep posting here if you need support in the future.

Love and best wishes,

David

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Ann, so sorry to hear your tragic news. Be strong, take care and remember we are here.

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I’m so sorry to hear about your devastating news.. we are all thinking of you and you are in our prayers x

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I am so sorry to hear of your sad loss. Hold your children tight, the love you have for each other will help you through. Keep hold of all your happy memories, no-one can take those away from you. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. With all my love Lynne xxxx

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My deepest sympathy go to you and your children. My thoughts and prayers go out to you all. Take each day has it comes and keep in touch. xxx Anna

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Ms.Ann,

God Bless You and Your Family,May God Be With You All Now and In The Days Ahead.My family and I will pray for ya'll.I cannot imagine your loss or you and your family's feeling's at this sad time.My heart and prayers go out to you and I admire your courage and selfless statement in your farewell.I feel your partner must have been a truly blessed man to have ya'll on his team and in his life.Go with God Ms.Ann and Family.

Sincerely,

Mayo Holloway III

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I am very sorry to hear about your loss. May God give and the children the strength to bear it. Its hard but you have to be strong for the children. Take care of yourselves and each other

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Ann, I’m so sorry to read this. 48 is so young. I hope you have family and friends who will help you and your children get through this difficult time. I wish you strength and courage going forward. Be kind to yourself. I hope you find peace. I send you love and positive wishes for your future. ❤️🌹

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Really sorry for your loss

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So sorry for your loss

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I'm so sorry to read this very sad news and I'm sending you and your family loads of strength and of course lots of invisable hugs to help you through every tough day ahead!

Take care of yourself Anne!

Love Trish xxx

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There are no words I can write which will heal your pain - only time can do that? Let your thoughts now be for you and your children to go on living. Talk about your partner - let his life continue in your hearts and minds.

Most people experience loss at some point in their life - from the death of a pet, to the loss of a loved one, or even a child? We can empathise with your pain. You will be in our prayers. Estelle. x

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So sorry for your lost, I understand this pain because i recently went thru such pain, Take care of yourself and stay strong for your 2 kids.

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Hi Livewell69. So sorry for your loss of a dearest one. I hope someday or even sooner that you would all heal. He’s in a good place now and not in pain. Try to find peace in that. Beefeater

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I to feel the pain and emptiness

My better 'other half' joined her ancestors 14 months on the 5th after 51 years on earth .

for me the spiritualist church helped me to heal the neptunes inside

love and peace carl

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I'm so sorry for your loss . Thinking of you and your family xx

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My heart aches for you and your children, you are in my prayers.

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So sorry to hear this thinking of you and your children xx

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So sorry for you all. My prayers are with you.x

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So sorry Ann. What a difficult path you and your children will have to travel without his love! But you will all remember him. He will live on with you all and, though it is hard now to accept, you will all be the more sensitive, tolerant, loving and kind from realising the pain of his leaving. All my love and best wishes, Mary xxx

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All my sympathy. Hold your children tight and let them them talk when they are ready. I don’t know how old they are mine were probably older. They were 18 and 20 when we lost their dad at 47 to leukaemia. The light sneaks back in. Don’t feel guilty when you smile or laugh about something you did together. And don’t forget to take care of yourself. 💞

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Hi Ann, so sorry for your loss. I too lost my partner earlier this year, having been listed since Nov 18, on 29th Jan, we got a call to say King's had a liver for him, only on the journey to find it was not a great match...we returned home....full of mixed emotions. My partner became suddenly very I'll and was admitted to our local hospital on 31st Jan. He unfortunately lost the fight and passed away that night. I can imagine how hard it must be for you and your children. My heartfelt thoughts are with you at this time. Best wishes Cathy

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I'm heart hurt for you I know the feeling of loosing a father it's gonna be rough for ur kids I'm sorry for ur loss I lost my father two years ago from help c cirrious of liver

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Our hearts are breaking for you, your children; and family. We don’t really know what to say...trying to ease your pain. Just know we are thinking and praying for all of you.

God Bless

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I am SO SORRY for your loss. So sorry. I lost mine on Mar 21st . Tried to go back to work but just couldn't. After 3 yrs of caring for him thru all his trials, hospitals admissions and stays ( to numerous to mention), in care home, his HE episodes, it was so overwhelming as I worked too.I needed time to recuperate myself. He came back to life 2x only to suffer more. Its VERY HARD adjusting to being alone. I've NEVER lived alone in ALL MY LIFE. I need to go to a therapist as I've literally been with my mom, dad, disabled brother and then my husband when they passed away. Images of his worst episodes flood my mind on occasion as well as his last day. I have so many questions. I get answers from friends but yet they come back like I cant accept them. I also wish I had brought him home to pass on. Did your husband pass away at home?

I hope you have support. I live in a small town of not so friendly ppl except for one friend. She has been there when I needed her but like I said I pray you have support esp with children. I also hope he didnt suffer too much. If you care to share what and how things were plz do. Take care and God bless and comfort you.

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So very deeply sorry. Prayers for you and your children at this time 🙏🙏

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Hi Ann,

I've been following this site for about a year now ever since my husband was diagnosed with ESLD. I lost him 8 months ago (we are the same age, you and I). It took me a long time to reply after his passing and you are the first. I am so very sorry for your families loss. It sucks big time. I will pray that you find peace. I know how hard this journey has been as we have traveled the same journey. Knowing how devastating this disease is to not only the patient, but to the family as well.

Godspeed - Christy

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Thank you all so much for your messages of support and comfort. I feel like I have been hit by a truck but the last couple of days I have had so many people around me and we have shared so many beautiful memories and relived so many happy times it had helped me put aside some of the sadness from when he was poorly and remember the happy strong giant of a man. I have found great comfort in that. Children are grieving and not shutting me out which is good. I hope in the future that I can offer words of support and comfort to others on here xxx

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So sorry for your loss livewell, it is a horrible, cruel disease. My love, thoughts and best wishes are with you and the children. Xxxxx

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So sorry for your loss my thoughts are with you and Family🌹 🌹 🌹

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We are so sorry to read this news. Sending sincere condolences from us all at The Trust.

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So desperately sorry to hear of your and children's loss. My husband is approximately six months behind yours so I more than empathise, you are in my thoughts and prayers. At least he is out of pain now but you will need to summon up the strength to stay focused and positive for your children. I so feel for you, sending you hugs and lots of love, Anne.

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so so sorry ann, i lost a partner last year and know how hard it is to do all the practical things after a loss, but you need to allow yourself time to grieve. it will be difficult but try not to take everthing on your own shoulders if you can.

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So sorry Ann my heart with u x

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