I don’t know where to start other than I’m at breaking point with my ex husband. He was very ill last July to Dec when diagnosed with decompensated liver and alcoholic hepatitis developed sepsis nearly lost him few times
They told us he had 6-12mths to live if he didn’t drink he could live longer.
I ended up writing a blog last week to get everything off my chest because I’m so alone it’s marriedtoanaddict.co.uk fo anyone who wants my full story.
We found him a place to live 2 mins from me which helped me if he needed anything I was there in seconds. I’ve bent over backwards as we have a daughter
8 weeks ago I found out he is drinking again 2x 3ltrs extra strong cider a day as well as abusing OxyContin. He doesn’t know that I know what’s the point he’ll only lie in fact looking back I don’t think he ever stopped drinking
His health has started deferiatng similar to how he was last year vomiting everyday rectal bleeding bloating swollen leg with gold ball type swellings. We found out in January 5cm oesophagus has stripped away part of his gullet, also there is a problem with his small bowel the report says burnt out! Whatever that means
He’s not seen his specialist since Jan until yesterday he was concerned re swelling n bleeding n has booked a colonoscopy and endoscope in a couple of weeks, he asked a number of times if he was drinking and told him no I had too look away
The last couple of days he started having nose bleeds lasting up to half hour.
My question is this I’m not sure how he is still alive given the abuse his body is having.
Are nosebleeds and swelling in legs part of liver failing?
How long are we looking before his body gives up?
The consultant checked his groin yesterday but not sure why.
I’m at the end of my tether if you read my blog you’ll understand why.
Thank you for reading and commenting in advance xx
So sorry to see hear what you are going through.
It sounds very much like he is in the late stages of liver disease. Most of his symptoms appear when the liver can no longer cope.
I understand how you feel I was married to an alcoholic but in my situation I gave up and got away before he got to this stage so I didn't have to cope with him. He did die later but in the meantime I met somebody who has hardly touched alcohol for all of his life but still ended up with liver disease , due to a genetic fault. Needless to say I looked after him and he did get a transplant in time. So I do know how you are feeling at the moment. You do need somebody to help you even if just to listen.
Thank you Carmik. We have been separated for 3 years as I couldn’t cope living in the toxicity.
When he took so ill last year I did everything I could for the sake of our daughter. Even Drs said if it wasn’t for me he would have died. Now I wish I hadn’t stepped in and I may sound like a bad person but it’s like I’ve gone back in time too last year.
How his body is still going is beyond on me it really is. That’s why I was looking to find out if the symptoms he’s displaying could be signs of his liver failing now.
He’s not yellow which I would expect but is a grey tiny orange and dark eyes.
I’m sorry too hear about your new partner how awful but hope he is doing well since transplant.
Can I ask how long your first husband survived from diagnosis? Did he continue too drink?
Best Wishes. Xx
Hi he was one of those top up drinkers. Carried on for many years. I split when I was 38 and he died when I was about 70. He had good run but was always I'll and ended up like a tramp.