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Personality change when drinking alcohol

hubblebite
hubblebite
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Hubby was diagnosed hep c 20 yrs ago been drinking 90 units alcohol per week. Become very temperamental and aggressive. I am now living away from home. Would mood swings be due to liver disease? He is also very paranoid

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Catfishjumpin

90 units is 90 drinks. If its hard spirits, scotch or vodka or such then its so much more damaging. 90 units is 90 drinks a week. Thats about 12 drinks a night. He is in deep trouble. Sure he liver right now is very affected, his urine is likely the color of rust, his thinking is highly compromized. I have seen the best and most successful with the disease of alcoholism. It causes wet brain. In my experience men suffer the most often of wet brain. But I got out, moved out, moved away from it/those drinking mates. Its the best thing I ever did for myself. Some of them have died since then, lost their jobs, lost their families, some are now very poor thinkers. No doubt thats all from a poorly functioning liver. I became a cyclist. Best to keep your distance from him. Its easy to become emotionally co-dependent and get trapped without ever having a drink. Good luck to you.

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hubblebite

Think you, he drinks about 10 cans of Stella four evenings a week and about four the other three. He works away from home so I am now living part the time in our joint house to see to the animals while he is away and with my patents 90 miles away the rest of the time. His behaviour iis so erratic once he starts DRI king the GP, police and I tried to get him sectioned but to no avail. He is refusing medical help. It really is tragic to watch someone destroy themslves.

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jennyjolly

Pity your joint pets also have to live in an abusive household

As with yourself through no fault of their own

So unfair on you all

My ex husband was alcoholic

Didn't have Hep C though

Still passed on at earlier age

It's hell living with aggressive drinker

I hope you can extricate yourself and your pets very soon

All good wishes

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grace111

any alcohol if you have hep c or liver disease is not good. they do say the the liver is the seat of anger however i dont know about that. what i do know from personal experience is that drinking if your an alcoholic causes paranoia and terrible fear and mood swings. it can make you do things that you would never do when sober. it causes black outs.among a lot of other horrible symptoms. its a progressive illness and as has been advised it is best to stay away. have you heard of alanon? its a place for families of alcoholics and you would meet people in the same/similiar situations as yourself. where you would get the help that you need. as you must be affected by all of this as you would not be posting here. it must be really hard for you to have watched your husband destroy himself. and sometimes they best thing we can do for them and ourself is let them get on with it. as we can be enabling them to carry on with the drinking and if you stay your giving him the message that its okay. so you have done the right thing. i know that miracles happen when people stop drinking as it is so damaging to the spirit mind and body even if you dont have liver disease. its a horrible illness. so please look after yourself. you may even find out a lot about yourself now that you have left as you will be with yourself and not focusing on him.i wish you well all the very best love grace xoxoxo

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Geffy22

Im short yes it could. I noticed a huge change in my hubby as his liver started to fail. We spent 12 months apart before he died - we were constantly in touch but i could not live with him.

Is he getting the help he needs? Have you got a good support network?

I found counselling really helped me, best of luck x

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hubblebite
hubblebite
in reply to Geffy22

It is heart breaking. I love my husband very much but I am no longer safe with him. He is still working four on four off so I live in our home to see to the animals and clean up the mess when he's away and then travel 90 miles to stay with family when he's off. He drinks about10 cans of Stella a night when home and for or five a night when working. He has suffered stomach pains and went on social media claiming I was drugging him. Thanks for your answer. Hr chats to me via messenger like I'm still his best friend but when he See's me he's engulfed with anger

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Will5

Absolutely, confusion, fatigue, forgetfulness, bad decision making, poor judgment,personality changes, mood swings, paranoia all can be signs of a condition called hepatic encephalopathy a complication of liver disease. Please get him to a Hepatolgist as soon has possible. Any further Alcohol use could be like putting gas on a burning fire.Good luck, but he needs medical attention asap in my opinion.

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hubblebite
hubblebite
in reply to Will5

Tried desperately but he refuses. Our GP, the police and I have even tried to get him sectioned because he keeps threatening to kill people but to no avail. Thank you for your answer

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Bal1
Bal1
in reply to hubblebite

You could try cutting him off entirely until he goes to Dr/gets help ect. Sounds like he doesn’t have to . By assisting him in an way may be enabling him to continue, water finds its own level etc etc .. you could explain this all to him when he’s messaging you and is friendly? Sounds harsh I know sorry!

Barry

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briccolone

even if liver disease is not advanced -depression, mood swings, and irratability all very common with heavy drinkers. Difficult to deal with-loads of experience on this site from those who've been through it.

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Reading-Jacqui

Hi there, I really feel for you, alcoholism is a dreadful illness which unfortunately does affect the mind as well as the body, causing dreadful mood swings and paranoid thinking.

I was trying my best to help a friend of mine but I've had to let go and walk away ...and I wasn't living with her but it was torture. She was so insulting and nasty but I kept telling myself it was the alcohol talking so didn't take offence....until her paranoid head rang the police claiming my husband was threatening to kill her (who, by the way, hadn't even spoke to her as I visited her rather than my children being subjected to her erratic behaviour!). The police did visit my home smiling after taking her statement, fortunately they could see she was intoxicated and didn't take her seriously, however, that was the turning point for me, I wasn't amused. If she could do that, what next?

Great advice from Grace...you need to look after yourself and your own sanity. No one can stop your husband from drinking except himself, so don't feel guilty leaving, you can only do so much the rest is down to him. Maybe if he sees you mean business he will eventually seek the help he needs. You can only hope.

In the meantime, take care of you.

Love, Jacqui x

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hubblebite

Thank you, He's threatenef violence towards me, thrown me out of the house twice and has become extremely paranoid about the neighbours because of a boundaries dispute. One night he blocked their drive way with boulders, put a carving knife in the gate post and waited 2 1\2 hours for them to come home and verbally abusef them. They had it all filmed on their dash can and even now he believes he was innocent and did nothing wrong. He is on a six month suspended sentence for two years. I wonder if it would have been better to have locked him up so he could have dried out. He suffers a lot of stomach pains and tells everybody on social media that I have been drugging him. It is so very sad to see someone you love and used to be so proud of end up like this.

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Reading-Jacqui

Bless you, sounds like you've had a dreadful on-going ordeal for some time. There is nothing worse than being around a chronic active alcoholic, it's heartbreaking but also frustrating.

I too tried to get my friend sectioned, in an attempt to save her from herself, but mental health refuse to get involved with someone who is under the influence of alcohol...so that was fruitless as my friend is intoxicated 24/7.

You have to think of your own safety as well as your sanity. Sadly, when drunk, there is no sign of the nice person you once knew. My friend was only verbally aggressive to me but has upset many people with outrageous accusations against them, fortunately my husband was only accused of threatening to kill her, she has made rape allegations a number of times against innocent people. She just fixates on whatever mad accusation pops into her head, then becomes totally irrational and paranoid about it and that's it she's away, there's no convincing her that it's all in her own head. As sad as it is, for my own sanity and wellbeing I had to walk away.

I hope for your sake your husband decides to get help, but until then you are powerless over his drinking and his actions. Only he can turn this around, not easy but not impossible. He just has to want it for himself.

Thinking of you and praying that at least you find some peace.

Jacqui xx

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