Scared

[TrishLamb]

Well the good news is they got clear margins from the breast, they took 5cm 3.5 was invasive and 1 was pre cancerous also it was close to my skin so they want to take a margin of skin away .... the bed news is that the 2 lymph nodes they took both had cancer. So I’m booked in 18th February for a full clearance of lymph nodes and the skin that was on top of my breast tumour. Followed by results 10 days later, then oncologist week after then chemo for about 4 months.... so we just absorbing it in tonight... can’t even imagine telling my kids just yet.... they had all this 4 years ago with their dad.....feel scared now

[Redwine50]

Hang on in there .huge hugs through out the months .xx

[carolinenailsea]

So sorry that you have got to have a further operation and then chemo. Its a long process. You will need to look after yourself and those around you will have to be kind to you. Its really difficult thinking about yourself when its clear you are so worried about the children. There is no doubt it will be difficult for them but they will have to know as it will be a tough few months. I know for me it took over my life for the best part of a year. You do get through it though. I wish you the most successful treatment and hope that this time next year it's all a distant memory and you are all firing back on all cylinders. Good luck over the coming weeks and don't forget to ask for help from friends, family, macmillan and anyone else that can help, if you need it. xxxxx Caroline, hugs

[Ditzy60]

I’m so sorry, I can’t imagine how you feel with the worry of not just your diagnosis but the impact it will have on your kids. But when you tell them I hope you will feel relief that they know and also that now you will not have to face this on your own! At least when you do tell them you know there is a plan in place to deal with this beast of a disease and together as a family you can focus on the positive, although not pleasant treatment steps that will get you fighting for again ! Big hugs to you and your children. You are a warrior and can and will get through this. Carolyn xx

[RuthJ]

Stay strong you can fight this xx

[Margt34]

Having been where you are now 15 months ago I understand how scared you are put yourself in their hands and the experts will look after you once you have started your treatment it gets easier because they have taken over and you have shared your worries the treatment is not pleasant but you will get through it with the love and support of your family good luck and my love and support are with you xx

[Chick44nzrn]

Dear Tricia, yes it is a lot to take on board and hard to process when you are unsure about the future. How old are your children ? I imagine school age perhaps?

I think once treatment starts , although it’s not a walk in the park and depending on how you react with side effects can be hard to tolerate , it’s a blessing to be able to give out positive messages to family and friends , and I think once your children see you are treatable they will feel more able to cope . My daughters are very anxious I know but I try to emphasise the best days and reassure them and my sons that I’m coping .. I use a lot of distraction techniques to get through the “ what ifs” . You will get through this too I’m sure !

Denise x

[Gail_evs]

Hi , my tumour was 4.5x3.5 cm and grade 3 .. had to do both breasts because reconstruction wasn’t an option 🤷‍♀️ From a j cup to a b ..

I had a sentinel node biopsy they took 5 because 3 had tumours... 6 rounds of chemo then 15 of radiotherapy

I never boast of beating it because I know it can return at any time but I was on your journey 9 years ago 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💪🏻💓 xx good luck ps the cold cap worked for me lost 1/2 my hair but kept enough to not use my wig x