My Friend get heavy leg pain and cold and cough,

[ediwn]

Dear Friends. My friends doing Chemo. Now she get very heavy leg pain and cough. Some times angry also. Kindly please advice me how can i help her.

How can i make her happy.I'm really don't know .......

[Jennymary]

Although I didn't have chemo, I would have wanted my friends to be there for me, listen to me, hold me when I cried so the best advice I can give is listen to your friend and make sure they know you are there for them, I wish you both well x

[Lainey66]

All you can do is be there for her. It is a very difficult time. There will be very little you can do to make her happy. If she is very angry then you might have to just let her be in her own space to vent her anger, however, her anger must not be directed at you as you did not give her cancer. She has to come to terms with what she has before you can do much to be honest. Sometimes, if you are trying too hard to make her happy, it might be annoying her. Speak to her, she just might need space and time to adjust. She is very lucky to have such a caring friend.

[ediwn in reply to Lainey66]

Thank u. But dear I'm really very sad about her sick. Every day mad a plan and visit her after I see her face and behavior. I lost my control. Now last 2 days she was suffering heavy legs pain and cough.

[Mandywilson]

When I was like that all I needed was for my friend to be there ...sometimes it's easier to be your "not well" self to your friend and not your family .. She just held me .. Or let me cry .. Wiped my tears , gave me a hug ... Then we would have a cup of tea . XXXX just be her friend xxxx

[Berylynn]

Its so reassuring to have another female checking up on you...all I can suggest is she will have a large amount of written material...ask to look through it...there might be indicators there...and a breast nurse telepone number to discuss problem. Also Pinterest boards have some really loving ways...not get well cards...something more loving and deeper...you make to give. Just being there, not bossing, with empathy and care. Good films, funny books, magazines, flowers, creams for scares, her favorite snacks, do not argue, it will improve as she recovers. And ages and generations may need there own special

Comfort zone. Asking here is a good step!

[Hidden]

She needs you there even if it frustrates you. Have she mentioned about the heavy legs and the cough to oncoligybor breast care nurse? She needs to speak to someone about them not just you. Hope things improve xx

[Maz1965]

Just being there for her. It is a very difficult time going through various hospital appointments etc. Offer to go with her to appointments and help out where you can - housework etc. She will be going through a whole load of emotions and you need to go through those to come through it and remain positive.

One of the best pieces of advice I got was from my oncologist and that was to take each week at a time and only look forward to the next appointment and ticking them off as another milestone complete.

She is lucky to have a caring friend around her. Not sure if you have any support group where she lives but they can also provide good support to talk to others who are also going through it.

I went to a Look Good Feel Great workshop which was a confidence boost for me as I lost hair, eyebrows, eyelashes and nails... Sending her lots of positive thoughts as she goes through this tough time.xx