British Pregnancy Advisory Service

Ttc 9 months and had a miscarriage on NYE :(

Hello ladies

So for 9 months since April to be exact me and my SO have been TTC I went too my obgyn and he suggested I got on clomid so on cycle day 5-9 I took clomid on cycle day 22 I ovulated and on cycle day 36 I got my bfp a week later I started having very light brown and pink discharge a few days after that I started spotting dark brown old blood that happened for 1 day the next day I woke up too horrible pains that felt like Braxton hicks I fell back asleep thinking I was okay then got woken by horrible bleeding I went to the restroom and felt a ton of pressure I looked and there was a huge clot of blood with white tissue I went to the ER and found out that my worst nightmare happened:(

I'm am beyond sad mad and stressed I just can't understand why this had to happen to me and my child !!? Well it's been a couple days and I just want to know what you mamas did to cope somebody recommended I named the baby I just need some ideas for coping and mourning and also I'd like to know when it's okay to start trying again

TIA

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It's hard I had a miscarriage at easter last year but as callous as this may sound miscarriages that early on are usually caused by a something wrong that makes it not viable. I know people say not to stress and it seems impossible not to but It might not take you long to catch pregnant again I did right away. I found the best thing was to just go with the flow and stop making so much effort to fall pregnant as stress can have an effect on it.

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Hi There,

So sorry to hear you are having such a sad time. We are UK based, but I'd like to suggest a great support network we have here. There is some good information about coping and when to start again. miscarriageassociation.org.uk/ . You may well have a similar support where you are, but take a look. I hope life improves for you, take care.

Best Wishes

Jules

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