I'm pregnant! V worried.

[laura990]

After a long 2years and a rocky path we found out 2 weeks ago we are pregnant! Long way to go yet.

We miscarried at 6-8 weeks back in August and are really worried and scared it will happen again.

Any one out there got any advice to cope with the worry?

[Jakey26]

Hi Laura,

Firstly, congratulations and I'm sorry to hear of your struggles and recent miscarriage. I'm 33 and was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was 31 following surgery and was told I wouldn't know if I could conceive until I tried but with my condition and age, things weren't looking too hopeful. We did however conceive on our honeymoon following 6 months of hormone treatment but had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks in February. We were absolutely devastated and did find it difficult, hating everyone who was pregnant or had a baby etc, then, like you, 3 months later we conceived again and I am currently very uncomfortable at 33 weeks!

I spoke to my midwife about early scans but she advised against it and although very understanding, insisted I just remain patient and wait until the 12 week scan. Probably the longest 12 weeks of my life and all I can advise is to try and keep yourself as busy as you can and talk about how you are feeling. My husband has also been incredibly nervous all the way through but we try to focus on the positives. Our first baby could not survive for a reason and a lot of women do miscarry their first child. 3 out of 4 of my friends with children all miscarried their first. My midwife also said that following a miscarriage, your body is 'ready' to carry a baby and the majority go on to have healthy newborns. When we did get to our 12 week scan, I had to explain to the sonographer that we were very nervous due to our loss as the screen was facing us so as soon as I knew it was 'safe' to look, I was overcome with emotion and actually cried when I saw it's little feet kicking!

I hope my story and advice can reassure you slightly, I wanted to let you know I know how you are feeling but try to relax as best you can, worrying won't change anything as I was always told! Easier said than done! Wishing you lots of luck, feel free to message me with any other questions. x

[laura990 in reply to Jakey26]

Thank you soo much Jakey. This has helped me a lot. Congratulations on your pregnancy and 33 weeks now is fantastic. Please keep me posted in how you do. We have booked a private scan on Friday so fingers crossed X

[Jakey26 in reply to laura990]

I'm glad I could help, I hope the scan goes well-let me know how you get on. Thank you, I will do! X

[Mumma80]

I worry all the time and am now 20 weeks pregnant. I also miscarried at 6 weeks but went on to have a healthy pregnancy 2 months later- she is now 5. I think worrying comes as part of the territory but one miscarriage does not mean you will have another. Rest, relax and count down the days until you see your baby at 12 weeks x x

[tamzie]

hahha ironicly the only thing to do to reduce the chance and stop worrying is to oh yeah stop worrying haha annoying right im in the same possition