Living with incontienence

[Jamesadams277211]

Living with incontienence both bladder and bowel is difficult enough but the worry of having to have the money to buy pads is more stressful than anything else. I have accepted having to wear pads 24/7 but it’s find the funds to buy them. I worked full time up until recently and I’m out of work now. It’s a struggle enough just to get buy on a day to day basis never mind an added expense.

Does anyone have any ideas how I can work this out to get pads when I don’t have the finances ?

U don’t get them free from the NHS so I’m stuck in a hole

[rosie-2015]

Hi I'm in Scotland and we get our incontinence free, our health visitor refers us, and starts us off with some then when we need more we get in touch with them, I hope this helps because it must be costing you a fortune

Rosie 😊

[rosie-2015 in reply to rosie-2015]

Lol incontinence free I meant incontinence pads etc

Rosie 😊

[Jamesadams277211 in reply to rosie-2015]

Thanks Rosie, I tried everything but it just seems a waste of time because they aren’t interested. I would be as well banging my head against a brick wall

[rosie-2015 in reply to Jamesadams277211]

I'm sorry to hear that, the NHS is supposed to help the vulnerable, and I feel being incontinent makes me really vulnerable take care and look in the mirror and say" my life such as it is is worth it "

Rosie 😊

[Jamesadams277211 in reply to rosie-2015]

Rosie I wish I could convince myself my life is worth it. From April this year my whole world fell apart. I've lost my home, my job and I have no one either. My stepson broke into my home put a knife and pressed it agaisnt my neck and threatened me because he needed money to pay a drugs debt he owed. He had blackmailed someone out of £60000 over 5 months that finished in February he spent every penny on himself and has nothing to show for it he told me to stop being tight and if I didn't give him the money to pay his debt he would make an allegation against me and I would need to pay. I said no I'm not giving u a penny so u could come back in a few days for more money and tell me it's hush money. What is the allegation ur going to make he replied I'll tell all the neighbour's u abused me when he was growing up and he will phone my employer and do the same. I still said no and it will always be no because u know that I never abused you. He replied doesn't matter mud stick and the allegation will do enough damaged and he will be back to finish the job off. He has returned 4 times and smashed all the windows in my home he did indeed tell the neighbour's and call my work, that's the reason I don't have a home because the police won't let me return because it's not safe and I was imm suspended from my job without pay

[rosie-2015 in reply to Jamesadams277211]

Wow what a nasty piece of work, can his mum or siblings not have a word with him

Rosie 😊

[Jamesadams277211]

His mother brought him to the house with the knife. He doesn't have any siblings

[lynella in reply to Jamesadams277211]

Oh thats horrendous. Just terrible. Hope you are safer now.

[sst567]

I'm so sorry to hear this, I wish I knew how to advise you! Have you tried internet searches for possible sources?

[Jamesadams277211]

Yeah sst567 I have tried everything and everywhere