I posted a few days ago regarding my Mum to which many of you lovely people replied and gave me advice and reassurance.
Today my Mum had a bad day. She text asking me what I was up to, then I got a missed call from her. I like to make sure that I am totally free before I ring her so I can spend time talking to her. So with time on my hands I gave her a call. Asked her if she was ok and she said no and that she really wants to see me, this is very unlike her. She then handed the phone to my Dad who also asked for me to come over. Horrible thoughts were rushing through my mind. Before I left I rang the doctors hoping to get an emergency last minute appointment, the receptionist said no sorry even though I told her that my mum was having breathing problems and she desperately needs to see a doctor. She ended up telling me that someone would phone my Mum soon.
When I got to her she opened the door and just hugged me so tight and burst into tears. I kept asking what was wrong but she just wouldn't reply. When she finally managed to speak she just said "I can't take much more of this, it's everyday" she was talking about the breathlessness. I told her to do the controlled breathing. Shortly after a doctors technician rang (not quite the person we wanted to speak to) she was quite helpful and told us that Mum has mild COPD with a reading of 67% My Mum was never told this.
Reading others comments I assume this is relatively good? I reassured her that it was.
I stated that before she found out what was wrong her breathing wasn't half as bad and now she is breathless everyday! She agreed that a lot of it must be anxiety. She is on steroidal inhalers not sure of the name but the technician said that it is the best medication. she has also been prescribed anti depressants.
I referred back to a comment made by Peter yesterday and all he has gone through and as he stated you go through something akin to bereavement and she could totally relate to this. She said she is in shock.
Can people please tell me. Does the controlled breathing work for them? When I sat with her tonight to do it and told her to do this every time she has a breathless moment she said but what if it doesn't help or what if comes back a few minutes later? I didn't know what to say
A woman who has been this strong lady who I've always depended on now depends on me. I will do whatever it takes to make sure she is as comfortable as possible in her everyday life. Has anyone tried hypnotherapy for anxiety?
Sorry for the long winded post but I'm emotionally drained and needed to off load.