Overthinking now

[Bluecat223]

I was talking to my neighbour earlier and told him I had a heart attack and stent fitted in December he then went on to tell me that when he was 50 he had the same HA and stent then went on to say I will have another HA as he had one 8 years later I know we are all different but it's really rattled me I was doing so well with my anxiety as well feel like I am back to square one now 🙄

[BeKind28-]

Hello

I am so sorry to hear your neighbour has upset you and did not think before they spoke so many can do this

But look at the facts many people have one heart attack and never have another and you are on all the right medications now

You are not your neighbour you are you and because that was their experience we are all individuals so the odds are it won't be your experience

They are not a Doctor either the list goes on and on why this does not apply to you because it happened to them

Please don't let it set you back after you have done so well because a neighbour talked rubbish to be honest and was very insensitive I hope they never get a job on the heart helpline or Samaritans can you imagine ?

Start as now and get of step one again a little setback but you can soon get back on track

Let us know how you get on x

[Bluecat223 in reply to BeKind28-]

Thank you Bekind I just thought how insensitive he was i have an appointment with the cardiologist who operated on me in may I am sure he will say the same as you its just made me have a bit of a wobble Thank you for always answering I really appreciate it 💗 xxx

[BeKind28- in reply to Bluecat223]

Hello

He was insensitive ane regretfully some people are or just dont think but I am sure your Cardiologist will say the same

You are in no more danger of having another heart attack than someone that has not had one so please try and see it as the comment was insensitive and if there was any truth in that comment he made that means everyone that has had a heart attack and a stent should expect to have another one and we know that is not the case at all in fact there have been members on here that had a heart attack a stent , do Marathons and are healthier than they have ever been and that will be you to x

[Godsdaughter80 in reply to BeKind28-]

Don't forget, keep your vibration high as you wake up, it will help you to avoid insensitivity. You will be on another level of conscientious.

[Rosieapple72 in reply to BeKind28-]

How lovely to see you posting BeKind28! I have missed your thoughtful and sensitive responses to members. I hope you are ok xxx

[BeKind28- in reply to Rosieapple72]

Hello

Thank You

I am still the same but kind of you to ask

I hope you are ok x

[Andyman]

Been 13 years since my one. Not had any sign of another.

[MazzyMaggot]

Hello Bluecat223. I had a heart attack in 2009. Had a stent same day. Am now 67 and no more heart attacks. Creaking gates last the longest. Live long and happy

[wattsy1985]

Hi Bluecat, I think you touched on it yourself because you are right, everyone is different and everyone has a slightly different story to tell, The important thing to remember is that you follow the advise that's been given to you from your consultant, its important that you listen to your body as well. Some people will always look for a negative in their situation which is understand at times but in your neighbours case i guess they have forgotten the 8 years in-between where they havent had any issues

[Lowerfield_no_more]

As folks who have known heart disease we are at greater risk of having a heart attack than those who don't have it. However you are now in a better place than you were before your heart attack given you will be now on medication and hopefully following the lifestyle measures recommended to reduce your heart health risk including diet exercise, body weight management alcohol and smoking etc. But there is no guarantee that you won't have another heart attack, just like there is no guarantee you will, that's how it is, so you just have to accept that. So I suggest you forget what your neighbour has told you and get on and enjoy your life and take each day as it comes, making the most of it. And if he raises it again just ignore him, for he has no real basis for what he has told you only his own experience which could be completely different to yours.

[Redfloyd]

Find another neighbour to talk to

[psethura]

insensitive and loose talks. Thats why i stopped telling about my cardiac events. Some are matured .. some just say take it east and dont probe. Everyone are different. Lets Do the right things and keep mind positive

[Sambobs17]

honestly some people can’t help themselves, I’m afraid they want to bring the conversation back to them, totally irresponsible, you are doing great I wish you well my friend, block that conversation out of your head and carry on as you were before take care 😊

[Goonerboy6661]

I totally get why that conversation with your neighbour rattled you — but honestly, their experience doesn’t mean the same will happen to you. We’re all different, and just because they had another event later doesn’t mean you will.

What happens next is much more in your control than you think. You’ve had your wake-up call, you’ve had your stent — and now you’ve got the chance to do all the right things to protect yourself going forward.

The trouble with these kinds of comments is, people often share the worst-case scenarios without thinking how it lands. You never hear from the thousands of people who had a stent and are doing fine years down the line — because they’re out living their lives, not posting on forums.

Try not to let one person’s story knock you off track. You were making good progress before that chat — nothing’s changed except someone else’s fear landed on you. Shake it off and keep moving forward.

[Pitt12345]

Yes very insensitive . My husband had a second but there is no way I would ever say that to anyone. Ignore him and enjoy life. I remember Dr saying to me Don’t over worry at least ‘hubby’ and the drs know what his plumbing is like and it’s been sorted he then said he’s in better position than us we don’t know what our plumbing is like !!!! Great guy who couple of years later had cardiac arrest. . Keep well and enjoy life

[MaggieSylvie]

Avoid that neighbour if you can. Have something "urgent you need to do".

[Parsley56]

There will always be people like that, spreading joy and reassurance...Absolute rubbish! Like Redfloyd said, find another neighbour to chat to. You're doing great! You may never have another issue.

[Billett]

He or she most probably did because some people dont change their attitude to lifestyle they get fixed then carry on exactly like they were before .A HA is a warning if you are lucky enough to survive it you have to seriously look at your lifestyle it is so easy to get dragged back into bad habits keep on doing for yourself and dont worry what happened to other people !!

[T666]

sounds to me like the cavalier attitude of your neighbour may well have been a contributing factor to his 2nd HA

Mindset, Attitude, diet, fitness are all contributors

Be happy, be well

[momander]

Hello,Everyone's experience is different, and so just because he had another heart attack does not mean you will!!! That was an insensitive thing to say to you. Its early days for you yet, and you will still be processing what has happened to you. Perhaps steer clear of this neighbour for a while!? It is understandable that you are anxious and stressed because of this remark. No one knows what the future holds so I would just enjoy each day. Take care

[YamMan]

If what your neighbour said was true, I am sure the medical profession would be putting in an eight year intervention on everyone who has a HA and a stent! The fact they haven't means there is no science behind the comment. As others have said so much better than me, and speaking as someone who has very fragile mental health, focus on the fact that we are all individuals living different lives- and if we do the right things we can live our best lives.( How many times can I get " lives " in a sentence?)

[Timberdome]

Hi ! If you take your medications reasonably methodically, you are no more likely to have a heart attack than someone who has never had one, in fact you are probably much less likely ! May I just add one caveat ? I'm not preaching to you here obviously but if you smoke (I don't know if you did, do or don't ) you need to stop. It's not easy but smoking is an absolute "no no" if you see what I mean, I used to but stopped dead and never touched one again although it was difficult. Having said that, some people enjoy it so much, they can't stop, so I understand that too but then one has to face the consequences naturally. All the best, try not to worry !

[Bluecat223 in reply to Timberdome]

I used to smoke but since my HA I haven't had one but I do vape I am on the NHS quit scheme I am gradually reducing to nicotine free

[Timberdome in reply to Bluecat223]

Thanks, Bluecat ! Vaping is much better than smoking but long term I think your doctors will want you to stop that as well, it's not much good for you but don't just stop like that because if you need to vape, then you need to vape (ask your doctor, don't listen to me). I still have plenty of of alcohol (I don't get pie eyed but I like a drink) and that's not great but trying to be perfect is not realistic, is it.

[Bluecat223 in reply to Timberdome]

I was drinking a lot before I haven't had any alcohol since the day before my HA I gave up everything over night I lost 3 stone stopped smoking stopped drinking don't eat cheese anymore and follow the Mediterranean diet I do miss my red wine though 🤭

[Timberdome in reply to Bluecat223]

Wow, you're good (disciplined), aren't you ! Alcohol is one thing I won't give up. It's never been a problem for me but I like a beer too much. Just as a point, I don't think cheese actually raises cholesterol. Alcohol is the worst for that (if it's more than the so called safe limit which I've exceeded for fifty years) but you are allowed to have some red wine, apparently (just not too much). All the best !

[Bluecat223 in reply to Timberdome]

Haha I was having too much red wine 🍷

[Avagra]

I had a HA and stent in Oct’22 and having gone through the anxiety period for the few months after I’m feeling great and I smoked 30 a day for close on 45yrs until I gave up the minute I was stented ! Don’t forget you are probably on so much preventative medication that gives you more protection than Joe Bloggs so relax and enjoy your life.

[Murderfan58]

That was very cruel of your neighbour to say that..You are on heart medication plus you have a stent you could live to you are 90 and never have a heart attack again.

My dad had 2 the same day in 1995 and never had another . He did died in 2007 but that was because his heart stopped but dad had had enough. He became very frail last 2 years of his life and hated his own body. He told me 2 days before he died he had enough and wanted to die . He was 80 and got his wish .

My dad hated what his body became and hated having to rely on my mom . To him he wasn't a man anymore.

Don't live with what if's or you will miss out on a full life and you are only 52 you have at least 30 more years to live. 🌹

[TasteLessFood4Life]

Dont stress - my late dad had one when he was 36! Didnt have another one again despite a not so optimal healthy lifestyle. But he was not a worrier - I think that plays a part too.

Best.

[Bluecat223 in reply to TasteLessFood4Life]

Yes you are right I am trying not to worry x

[wischo in reply to TasteLessFood4Life]

I agree with your dad as I doubt an Amazonian plant diet is going to make much difference if any to most heart patients. I have asked two cardiologists should I follow a strict diet and both said that as I was not carrying excess weight then no and just keep up the exercise and not too much alcohol and no smoking. I do watch what I eat but within reason. As they say we are here for a good time not a long time.

[Shabana1974]

I am really sorry about your neighbour, unfortunately there are so many know it all out there. We need to listen with one ear and out the other. There are so many differences between each of us that we can not judge our situation against there's. It's highly unlikely that you will have another heart attack. It's possible he did not change his behaviour, lifestyle which would put him in a high risk category. The fact you have turned to BHF shows me you have adjusted and will continue to Adjust. So please stay positive and ignore the neigh sayers.

Send hugs

[irishwife93]

I’m so sorry your neighbour said this to you, what an idiotic thing to say! This is not true and you should ignore them, we are all different. I don’t know what good it does to tell you that other than make them feel better about having two heart attacks and thinking at least I’ll have company. Please don’t worry and avoid talking to them about heart related things in the future!

[Mickem]

Make sure you take meds ESPECIALLY Aspirin - don't ask me how I know 👍

[Dogsaremybestfriend]

Misery loves company

[Pundit999]

Very rude on your neighbors' part. Everybody is different and every heart disease case is different.

We should all accept that heart disease is a systemic problem and needs to be handled that way. Stents and other procedures save lives during heart attacks and improve the quality of life but adhering strictly to medications, modifications to diet and regular exercise are the only way to ward off future issues.

I suggest we all read about Mr. Clinton's journey. How he was able to get a handle on his heart disease only after he made significant changes in his life style.

[Catlover1981]

My mum had a massive heart attack 2 days before she had me 43 years ago and touch wood she is still alive she has not had another heart attack. She is 87

[Heartsofoak]

Don't worry about it, things have changed dramatically in treatment and management terms and he is ok still after his problems.

[Bluecat223 in reply to Heartsofoak]

Yeh he is he has a pacemaker now x