The last 2 weeks of my life have been, without question, the worst. I'm 47 years old and thought I had the perfect life. I'm married with 3 boys (14, 16 and 24). Although a little overweight I'm down the gym most nights or cycling my bike if the weather is good. When not down the gym or working I like relaxing at home with my wife with a glass of wine, probably too much wine
I had a congenital heart defect when born that was corrected with surgery at 2 weeks old. About 5 years ago after a checkup it was noticed I had ectopic beats with a mildly dilated LV and an EF of 45%. I was given Bisoprolol(2.5mg) and Lorsartan(100mg) and thought nothing of it and continued with my life.
My EF has jumped around a bit in the last 5 years 41%, 51%, 40%.
A few weeks back I noticed my pulse was slightly higher than normal so I booked an appointment with my Cardiologist.
While having an echo it was noticed that I had Atrial Fibrillation / Atrial flutter during the echo which was confirmed with and ECG and a 24 hour tape.
The diagnosis of Atrial Fibrillation was worrying but after speaking to my parents felt some comfort in the fact my Dad also has it and it hasn't caused him any problems.
I then spoke with the Cardiologist who started talking about Heart Failure and although I haven't got any symptons should be taking medicine for "life expectancy" (see meds in bio)
That's when I got the diagnosis of a severely dilated left ventricle with ejection fraction of 30%.
Since then I've really been struggling, the constant fear of dying while my kids are young, never seeing them marry or settle down. I can't stop thinking how long I will have left, 6 months...1 year, 5 years...When at work I can't concentrate, people around me know whats happening and they try and help but I can see that even they are concerned for me. Every time I get to a point of some positivity I learn something else about my condition and go back to thinking negatively again. It's a constant cycle. The only saving grace is that I can sleep ok and go to bed early.
I discovered the BHF helpline yesterday and ended up having to make 2 calls. The Cardiac nurses where great and really helped settle my anxiety.
Before any of this I was the most chilled person, never got anxious and rarely got stressed.
My wife has been great, I can see she is going through the same emotions, sometimes getting too much and she starts crying in public places like supermarkets. She has seen a private GP to get some anti depressants to help. I'm conscious of how this is effecting her and try and be positive when I can around her.
The children know that I have an irregular heartbeat and I need an operation but I haven't discussed the Heart Failure with them yet.
I am hoping to have an Ablation before then end of the year and although the AF isn't the cause of my HF it may hep with it.
The years leading up to this I have been a moderate/heavy drinker having a few large glasses of wine most evenings. Since I noticed changes in my pulse I have stopped drinking alcohol and caffeine and lost a noticeable amount of weight.
I'm not sure what the cause of my HF is but the severe dilation couldn't of been helped by my drinking.
My dream is that after the Ablation, when the Atrial Fibrillation has gone(maybe after multiple ablations) my dilated LV will improve or at the very least my EF get to a higher number so that I can continue to live a relatively normal life. I'm too scared to think this at the moment.
I know that the way I'm feeling must be the same for a lot of people on this forum. The news of Heart Failure is such a shock. Would be really keen to hear from anyone who could share a similar experience.