an update to my planned triple bypass surgery on this Monday

[Di1967]

a very stressful 26 hrs in hospital all preped ready to go down, had my shower, surgery stickers on my shoulder , icu bag for personal stuff for afterwards, all that was left was my pre-med then 20 minutes later to be wheeled down at 3/4 pm ,

no normal pain meditation or heart meds aloud before op, only had eaten a banana at 5 am Monday morning, since Saturday evening as I felt physically sick the whole time leading up to surgery.

For me who doesn’t deal with stress and the unknown at the best of times to get to this part was almost the worst day of my life! My surgeon also informed me earlier he had change on vein retrieval and instead of small endoscopy scars he was cutting from groin to ankle, not using my radial artery as discussed in April…… so this was a big thing to get my head around but I was there knew I desperately needed to have this surgery

They cancelled my operation… with no future thoughts on when it might be… the two nurses who came to tell me got called away straight away literally…

I lost the plot became very overwhelmed , sobbing, pulled all my medical stickers and tags off dressed , retrieved my medication I’d taken in and left quickly … didn’t wait to be discharged just left….

All the planning and stress to get to this point , the last 6 months has felt to much. I’m just not strong enough.

I would like to say a massive thank you to all the other members who supported me over the last 6 months with wise words, advice, empathy and encouragement. I wish you all well with your surgeries and recovery journeys and future lives

[BeKind28-]

Hello

I am so gutted to read this and I felt all your emotions and how you just left I know I would have reacted the same and to be honest I am not sure how I would have coped at all

I know this happens an emergency no doubt came in and yes we know that takes priority if that is the case but then that does not help us when we have gone through all that anxiety and fear and the best we can mentally prepare ourselves to have it cancelled

When you are ready please talk with your Doctor and explain and hopefully you will hear from the Consultant or your Doctor will write on your behalf

I avoid everything literally but I knew I needed this operation and you do to so please this very bad experience don't let it stop you when they can fit you in again

Give yourself time to get your head round this and know this has happened to so many on here nit cancelled once but a few times but eventually they have had their ops done and you will to

I hope you are going to stay and keep posting how you feel and updates

You did so well please don't give up now this will come good and you will get your op and everyone will be here to support you when you do x

[Bluey73]

Di, I have been thinking about you & wondering how things had gone on your big day. I'm gutted to read that it got cancelled at the very last, I just can't imagine how you are feeling now. I am guessing the medical team were called to an emergency surgery. Please stay strong, reach out for some support, there are some lovely people to talk to out there.

Everything will work out for you & it will be worth it in the long run, you will be fine, you just can't see that right now.

Take care,

[DodgyTickerMum]

I’m so very sorry to hear all that you’ve been through. To be in that ‘zone’ of headspace - where you need to be - to get through the run-up to surgery, to then have it cancelled moments before, must have been horrific.

Apparently, if the NHS cancels a planned surgery on the day, they then have to offer you an alternative date, to take place within 28 days. I know this is small compensation to you currently - especially after all that you’ve endured, but hopefully they’ll be in contact very soon.

Stay strong and try and remain positive. Sometimes fate intervenes for reasons we can’t fathom at the time. Keep us all posted when you get your new date through. We’ll all be thinking of you in the meantime. ❤️‍🩹

[valeriep]

While I quite understand why you walked out like you did, you need to make sure that the paperwork for your discharge was actually completed, as it sounds like the staff were distracted by an emergency and you were no longer there to hand it to receive the paperwork, so it may have been overlooked. After I had my stents put in, I was kept in overnight and someone didn't file my discharge papers correctly the following day, so the next course of my treatment was put on hold for 4 months, as I had never been formally discharged from the ward. It was only after repeated phone calls from myself that they discovered I hadn't actually been living in the cath lab for the last 4 months! You don't want to 'get lost in the system', because it takes a while to get back into it.

To echo what DodgyTickerMum said, I also had an operation (not OHS) cancelled on the day after being prepped for it and my surgeon told me that that made me a priority when it came to rescheduling, because I'd already had a cancellation.

[Rosieapple72]

Hi Di

I understand exactly how you feel as the same thing happened to me. Initially I was very frustrated but after a couple of days I calmed down and took it as an opportunity to plan for my next date. During my overnight staying on my first admission I spoke with other patients who gave me advise eg take some ear pods for using the phone, make sure your charger has an extra long lead, label your belongings, make sure you have warm clothing as the wards are cold. Small things, but really useful for my next admission.

It is very stressful, especially after such a long wait, mine was over six months wait too.

Honestly though, you are being given a chance here to have a much better quality of life. Some people who are ill don’t get that chance, so I just saw myself as being lucky. If your op was cancelled like mine, it was probably because someone else was more poorly and in more urgent need than yourself. This was the case with me as the surgeon told me why I asked why my op was cancelled. I could live with that…I just thought that if that person was one of my relatives or friends, I would want their life to be saved.

I know it’s really tough believe me, but just try to see this as an opportunity for someone who must have been in more need than yourself.

It won’t be long before it is your turn. I only had to wait another week, then I was in, operated on, recovering and home. Upwards ever since. My by was a real positive life changer.

Thinking of you and wishing you well.