Johnny Cash made hurt, originally recorded by Nine Inch Nails, his own! It is one of my favourite songs especially when I am feeling low. The verse that hits the most is:
What have I become
My sweetest friend?
Everyone I know
Goes away in the end
especially the last two lines. After my bypass a few people went off radar (others have commented on this previously) but since my amputation over half the people I knew have. One I had known for nearly forty years. Three are quite strange. One has been coming to see me for four years, another kept saying he was coming over in June 2022 but went quiet around October last year and another popped up after 20 years after hearing what happened, came to visit and disappeared again. Oh well it says more about them than me I think.
I think so many of us can have a favourite song that means something to us
It can really hurt when what we thought were friends seem to twindle one by one when we need them the most especially when we hope we would not react this way
There can be a few reasons why they do this maybe they just do not know how to cope with someone that is ill who knows even though it hurts us as we are still the same person
I know you have a lot going of and hope you are not feeling down as the nature of your post seems a little that way even though I could be wrong
But know this has not just happened to you I know it has happened to me to and I expect plenty more as well have gone through this to
I didn’t know that Michael. I have been off radar for quite a while. I only log in occasionally as the conversations became a little too angry at times. I got over my angry period a while ago. You may remember I have mentioned to you about a dear friend who was an amputee who also had a brain tumour removed and a TAVI (if that’s what you call it). He sadly passed away in June with liver cancer. We always went out as a family and even went on holiday together last October so we never gave up on him. I understand when you say it says more about them than you and you are better off without this people. Thank you for your continued support and quizzes and tea parties. Take care.
Sorry to hear your friends are no longer in touch Michael, it is very difficult when support is what you need most. I do wonder if friends disappear because they don't know what to say or do. I know when my husband was diagnosed with cancer quite a few people said 'I'm sure he'll be fine, etc' which I found quite patronising. Unfortunately when we have life changing medical conditions we have to change our lives, our habits & our way of thinking, friends don't always understand that. Are there any local support groups you could join/attend to make new friends who do understand? If not, maybe you could start one? It'll keep your mind occupied & give you something to focus on. Best wishes
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