Newly diagnosed - the 3A's

[uzininemm]

Coming home from Wales this morning there was a piece on BBC Radio Wales on strokes and one lady rang in to advise she had dealt with this using the 3 A's - Accept, Adapt and Achieve.

I can say this is exactly what I did, and I bet a lot of my fellow hearties did too, I had never previously never thought of in such simple terms.

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Thank you for bringing this to our attention , not a bad mantra to follow and if it helps someone not coping so well then I'm all for it

Take care

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hi thanks for this, such a simple yet powerful approach.

Think I’m in the middle to back end of acceptance at present 😊

[uzininemm in reply to Hidden]

Personally I think that accept is the hardest one to achieve and once you have done that the other two can be straight forward.

I was lucky in one sense having previously suffered a medical issue that affected me mentally for the best part of 20 years between the age of 10 and 30 before I saw how to deal with it, this literally took a day once a nurse had spoken to me as to what Heart failure was.

Good luck and my best wishes in getting there, from how I read your reply you will get there very soon.

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thank you I’m definitely getting closer ❤️

[Aoki]

Thanks. I found this really helpful.

[uzininemm]

Whilst I agree with what you say, I would add as that it doesn't just come down to determination but also having the right support and people to talk to (and being able to listen to that help) and using it to your own particular circumstances.

[1234_6 in reply to uzininemm]

Very inspirational Uzininemm. Thank you for sharing the 3 A's with us all & reminding us that we should obtain support too and don't have to face things or cope with things alone.

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Yes That is the stark painful truth. And Acceptance comes from being truthful however difficult and painful.

Doesn’t mean I don’t sob my eyes out occasionally though 😔

It’s just my adaptations and achievements one day (don’t know when) will look very different to that of others.

❤️

[uzininemm in reply to Hidden]

The key is it doesn't matter that your adaptions or achievements are different from others, they should only relate to you, and if you feel that you have achieved yes it should be celebrated.

When I was about 20 I used to do some dingy sailing teaching and oneday I took a young lady out of about 15 who had spina bifida , and all she had the strength to do was control the front shrouds.

Now it wasn't much to anyone who was able bodied however what she did was give 100% of what she could do, rather than me who wasn't having to give 100%.

I have never forgotten that young lady who gave all she had got.

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