Today's win

[Valentina98]

Hey everyone

Today's win is not as good as yesterday but I'm taking it.

I needed a shower and hair wash, turns out just showering wore me out so had to ask Mum for help washing my hair.

So today's win was asking for help

V x

[Valentina98]

Driving me mad, but she's okay. She's gone into overdrive cooking but that's fine I'll not kill her 😂

[Rhinos67]

Hi Valentina

I love your positivity 😊. When I was recovering from OHS last year a friend gave me the best advice. To look for the 1% improvement each day and no more. Some days it's was that I'd managed to walk a few more yards, but other days it was that I'd managed to have a shower standing up rather than using the seat over the bath, or that I hadnt cried all day.

Sending you love and positive thoughts

Joanne

😊

[Yumz199725]

That's a brilliant win well done!.I had help with this when I came out of hospital and I didn't have a heart attack so your doing amazing! My sister gave me a bath and washed my hair honestly couldn't do it too exhausting. So glad your mum can help you awww ❤️

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Hello

It is as good a win as yesterday as not only did you ask for help which helped you from struggling you asked your Mum and that will have made her feel special so a double win from me for you today x

[Heyjude31]

Hi V, a great positive, good news! x

[Valentina98]

Does the mean I can be mean to her tomorrow 🤣

[JeremiahObadiah]

Being clean and having freshly washed hair makes one feel more human and asking for help is a sensible recognition of your present capabilities -so a good win.

Hope you manage to be Super Daughter and be sweetness and light for your Mum tomorrow-although that might actually worry her hugely !

[MummaSoap]

Aww V, this is very much a win still!

It takes courage and strength to ask for help, especially when we’re feeling vulnerable so you should feel immensely proud for recognising what you needed today and then actually asking for it rather than just not having the shower or pushing yourself to do more than you were ready to do and then wiping yourself out and potentially causing yourself a set back (speaking from experience)!

I’m a TERRIBLE patient and my partner (although I love him with my whole heart and know he would do anything for me) is a HORRIBLE nurse! Our relationship really suffered when I came home from hospital because I just couldn’t share my vulnerability and all because I was too worried about protecting him from how bad I really felt. I did myself absolutely no favours and in the end I was forced to tell him exactly how it was because otherwise, I would’ve ended up back on CCU.

Moreover, I bet your mum will have seen today as a win for 2 big reasons… A) she’s been able to be of visible use to you and B) you have trusted her to support you and allowed her to see your vulnerability

You have most definitely got this and glad to see your sense of humour is well and truly in check!

Best wishes

Soap

P.s. No you can’t be mean to your mum 😂🙊

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"Im a TERRIBLE patient and my partner (although I love him with my whole heart and know he would do anything for me) is a HORRIBLE nurse! Our relationship really suffered when I came home from hospital because I just couldn’t share my vulnerability and all because I was too worried about protecting him from how bad I really felt. I did myself absolutely no favours and in the end I was forced to tell him exactly how it was because otherwise, I would’ve ended up back on CCU"

Very honest of you that echo's many.....Thank you

[Bartie123 in reply to Hidden]

so good to hear that! My dearly beloved is the same! X

[Jules2021]

When i first left hospital after my heart attack and stent i had to sit in the shiwer and my husband had to wash my hair for about a week as it totally wiped me out. Even with him doing that i had to lie down for a sleep afterwards! Take it easy . Sending love. Jules x

[Valentina98 in reply to Jules2021]

Same, Mum had a shower chair (I used to joke that's because she's old but I'm using it now, it's brilliant!) I managed to wash myself but I was too tired to do my hair so I had to get her to do it. Then I had a lie down "to dry naturally" really it was because I was so tired.

V x

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Charlie Mackesy’s wonderful book, ‘The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse’ contains so many interesting and applicable things for us Heartys.

“What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever said?” Asked the boy.

’Help.” said the horse.

”Asking for help isn’t giving up.” said the horse, “It’s refusing to give up.”