Do others feel lonely and alone? I feel lonely every day if I don't have distraction techniques of keeping busy with mindful drawing & jigsaws. I am used to working so have lost the interaction of my colleagues. My friends I thought would be queuing to see me are all keeping away. I cannot exercise as I used to on the bike. i cannot dig my allotment and I cannot visit people until I have seen the Specialist.
Thanks Jo
Hi Jo. Yep. I work and still feel like it sometimes. For me, living with a heart condition is isolating as it's not something I can talk to many people about as they have little/no experience of it. They want to feel sorry for me living with heart disease, and I'm not after that. It gets easier, like everything related to living with a heart problem, you learn to adapt.
In response to the bike, could you get a turbo trainer and very, very gentle spin your legs? I know it's not the same but it's something.
Hi bike rider thanks for your reply. I don't want the sympathy but want to in time learn to live with it.Yes I will look into the turbo trainer.
Thank you
No problem. I think peoples default is to want to offer sympathy, or not know what to say so they stay away as they don't want to offend or upset. With the right outlook it doe get better/easier.
Yes I get it, and I will have to adjust once again. Sometimes it is hard but thanks. Do you go on long rides?
I do now. anything from 40km upwards. It's a slow build up but it's doable.
That's great I am really looking forward to getting back on the bike. 😊
Hi Jon1970 your not alone but I know where you’re coming from. When you have a life changing event every thing changes. Your relationships with yourself as well as others. And there relationship with you will change. I was working till a heart attack 9 months ago. Work isn’t interested in having me back and haven’t come up with any reasonable changes to help me back so I won’t be going back. You are a number unfortunately and they’ll get on without you. BUT I’m trying to look at this as a new phase with new ideas. I’m still me.
I’m finding though that those around me don’t understand. After being told last week I have a complex cardiac arrhythmia and need to pull back from my exercise effort’s and not to put my heart under strain ( I’m waiting for appointment with an electrophysiologist), that it could be dangerous to do so my husband has said he thinks I should just be getting on with things and not meithering. That’s a hard ask. I’m feeling frustrated, annoyed, emotional and upset after coming so far after my heart attack, swimming walking exercising I feel I’m going backwards. My friend I’d normally talk with has the worst type of breast cancer and is in the middle of chemo. So I don’t want to put anything on her.
This site is a good place to dip into. And keeping busy if you can helps. Chatting with people at swimming and the gym helps but you need to be happy with your own company as well. It’s a new phase in your life and you will navigate it as will I. But it’s a bit of a roller coaster. A lot of us here are still working at trying to enjoy the ride. So you’re not alone. X
Hello 
I relate so much I feel so alone even if I have people around me
After what I have been through I feel no one understands and if I get worried again I feel no one understands and I sit with my own thoughts and feelings
You are not alone but thank goodness you can come on here knowing people will care and reply and hopefully even though virtual that helps a little x
Yep I recognise the feelings of loneliness. I work part time, my partner full time so I have aftenoons or mornings to myself and the dog.
I've never been one for a wide social network and really yearn for someone other than my partner to confide in as in the last two years she has lost her youngest brother and father and is already struggling with unresolved grief issue which I'm now adding to.
The spare time I have I spend researching around my condition, it feels all consuming.
I guess we all need to hang in there until we find a way to adapt and then enjoy life again.
Thank you for your thoughts... I am having a better day today as have spoken to a few people and organising visits now which will keep me busy. I don't have a dog (though I am looking at this) I don't have a partner either maybe this will change at some point.
Good morning JoN1970. Could you not join any social groups to get you out a bit and probably make better friends in the same position as you. It really is annoying when you have been there for others and they have short memories when it's payback time. I hope you can find something and have a good day Brian
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