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Good Morning!

The majority on this forum are very much concerned about your husband and you. We sincerely hope today brings better news. Do keep us updated as and when you can. Depending on their beliefs people are praying, crossing their fingers, sending virtual hugs, etc. to you and your family.

I would also like to offer apologies on behalf of the forum that your original post/tread was locked. Unfortuneately sometimes threads go off at a tangent and become potentially argumentative. At this stage the moderators usually chose to lock them. For information HeartStars do not have the ability to delete posts or lock threads.

Could I ask forum members to use this thread for Bantam12 to give us updates as and when, and to offer appropriate support.

Best wishes, MichaelJH

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Lezzers profile image
Lezzers

Great post Michael, thoughtful as usual.

Thinking of you bantam12, I'm really hoping things have improved. X

SpiritoftheFloyd profile image
SpiritoftheFloyd

Well said Michael.

Hoping for some good news

Sunnie2day profile image
Sunnie2day

Well done, Michael, thank-you.

Bantam - (((HUGS))) and prayers.

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Calliope153

Sending positive thoughts. Are your daughters with you now? Hugs

Milkfairy profile image
MilkfairyHeart Star

Thank you MichaelJH.

Bantam12 you and your husband are very much in my thoughts .

I hope your husband is improving

Good luck for your own procedure this week.

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Nathan53

Hello Bantam - I hope you eventually see this post to know we are all thinking of you and your family. Hugs & Best Wishes

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Helen_BHF

Hi bantam12 ,

I wanted to reach out to let you know that we were sorry to turn off comments on your recent post. When we receive a lot of reports of abuse, it's our community policy to shut down the thread to avoid any further distress for other members.

If you need support, the community is always here but please do contact our heart helpline if you'd like to speak to our cardiac nurses, they'll be happy to listen.

Call 0300 330 3311

bhf.org.uk/informationsuppo...

Really hope this helps.

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Heythrop51

Hope all going well! Thinking of you both!

Zena166 profile image
Zena166

Thank you Michael for raising this. Bantam I hope and pray that all is well with you and your husband. Take care. Sending lots of positive thoughts and love. Zena XX

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bantam12

Thank you Michael, Helen and everyone else who has sent me messages, it means a lot to be able to talk to people who understand.

My daughters visited me over the weekend but life has to go on so they are all back to doing what they have to do which is fine πŸ™‚

The latest from Papworth is there is no change, he's still on the ventilator and they are struggling to treat and reverse the Ischaemia because he is to ill for another major op.

I dread calling the hospital every day, every time the phone goes I think it's them and the call that I'm anticipating keeps going round in my head, I can't visit him as I'm having my pacemaker done tomorrow but I'm ok 😘

Thanks again, love to all of you

Penny x

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Supernanuβ€’ in reply tobantam12

Have just read your original post and wanted to add my good wishes and prayers to everyone else.

Hope all goes well tomorrow. Will be thinking of you.

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thetiddersβ€’ in reply tobantam12

Will be thinking of you tomorrow, hope all goes well for you.

I hope you soon get some better news about your husband soon.

Jean πŸ™πŸ»πŸ™πŸ»

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SpiritoftheFloydβ€’ in reply tobantam12

I'm sure having a pacemaker is the last thing you want at the moment! Good luck with tomorrow and I hope you soon have some good news about your husband.

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Lezzersβ€’ in reply tobantam12

Best wishes for tomorrow. Remember your husband us in good hands, Papworths communication may leave a lot to be desired but the care & treatment will be first class. Try & concentrate on yourself at the moment & let us know how things are as & when you can xx

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Bagratβ€’ in reply tobantam12

Still thinking of you and yours

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bantam12β€’ in reply toBagrat

Thank you, much appreciated, update below πŸ™‚

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Maisiemay13

Best wishes for tomorrow,hope you get some positive news regarding your husband xx

Lezzers profile image
Lezzers

Hi bantam12. Hope all is well with both you & your husband x

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bantam12β€’ in reply toLezzers

Thanks, not great here, my pacemaker insertion went well but oh boy was it a brutal experience, I've had many operations and some of them were major but the pain from this has been off the scale !! and the bruising is spectacular, had to have more X-rays because breathing is so painful but at the mo clear for pneumothorax, although I'm not convinced !

Hubby had to have an emergency tracheostomy on Thurs, he has multi organ problems which they are trying to manage but the outlook is very grim, they keep asking if I can go up there but there's no way right now, I can't risk it ☹️

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Lezzersβ€’ in reply tobantam12

I'm sorry to hear the procedure didn't go so well, oh my you're certainly being challenged at the moment.

Yes, unfortunately, the risk is too great at the moment to visit your husband which must be so very difficult for you. Have you told your children? They may want to visit your husband as you're not able to do so. Xx

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bantam12β€’ in reply toLezzers

Middle daughter is planning to go up to Papworth tomorrow but I really need help here so we have to discuss it ! Youngest came home Friday night to help me but she has to go back to Uni today, all a bit of a disaster.

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Lezzersβ€’ in reply tobantam12

So difficult for you all xx

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MilkfairyHeart Starβ€’ in reply tobantam12

Bantam12

I echo everything Lezzers has said already.

All I can offer is to say both you, your family and your husband are in my thoughts during this very difficult time for you all.

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bantam12β€’ in reply toMilkfairy

Thank you 😘

Sunnie2day profile image
Sunnie2dayβ€’ in reply tobantam12

Lezzers and Milkfairy said what I'm thinking. You and yours are in my prayers.

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Zena166β€’ in reply tobantam12

So very sorry to hear that you’re in so much pain and about your husband Thinking of you and your husband. What about writing a note to your husband and ask one of the nurses or a family member to read it to him. Sometimes patients in intensive care can occasionally hear things that get through to them or record a message for him so it can be played to him. Just a thought. Sending big hugs lots of love and positive thoughts. Zena xxx

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Lezzersβ€’ in reply toZena166

The tape is very good idea. When my husband was in a coma they told me to keep talking to him, even reading a newspaper or book to him helps xx

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080311β€’ in reply tobantam12

So sorry to read your procedure as left you with such bruising and pain. The news about your husband must be so hard for you.

Know that you and your family are in lots of people’s thoughts. Try and stay strong, I am sending you my very best wishes.

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Bagrat

Oh Lordy so sorry to read this. You really are between a rock and a hard place. So difficult to make a decision whether to travel to see your husband or not with your own health concerns.

I do hope you feel better in yourself very soon and it is good that your husband is being well looked after in a centre of excellence.

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Maisiemay13

Sorry to hear this,sending big hugs xx

MichaelJH profile image
MichaelJHHeart Star

Thinking of you both! When my mother was in a coma and I ran out of things to say (you can't ask about lunch) I took in a CD player and some of her favourite albums. They say music gets through better than other sounds. The logistics may be challenging though.

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Janma123

Thinking of you both - I was wondering how you both are. I hope there is better news soon from both of you. Take care of yourself and hopefully you can travel soon to be with your husband. Sending a big hug.

Jane

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