Hi Totally new to all this!
My hubby who's 32, fit and active lifestyle had a heart attack on Sunday.... It just doesn't make sense! We have 2 boys aged 9 and 5 and even the Doctors are baffled as there were no risk factors so waiting for him to have a angiogram to see what damage there is... it just feels like our world has turned upside down. All i want to do is cry and looking after the 2 kiddies and work full time is pretty hard at the mo and with trips back and forth to hospital...today is the 1st day i've not seen him and feel really guilty. Sorry for such a depressing post i need to talk about it and tr to understand it better...
The worse thing is when we don't know this is a problem in our body. Because we can't do anything about it.
Now I know it is a shock & really scary for you.
But the doctors know now & once they know, they can then deal with it. And believe me, the cardiac teams in the Uk are the best in the world.
He'll be on the correct medication which will help him to get strong again & that happens really quite quickly. The meds will prevent a repeat episode. So please don't worry. Believe itbor not, although he is only 32, that isn't as unusual as you think. He is one of the lucky one because they are onto it.
Please don't feel guilty about not visiting today.
This has hot to have been a huge shock to him, like yourself. So on exspireance I would say, he may be needing a little space right about now. Just to get his head around it all. When you are there, he will feel he has got to be brave, strong & support you. He wont want you to see him try to work it all out in his head. You'll both be needing a good nights sleep by now.
So if you have a bath at home & you have the chance to relax in it when the kids are settled in bed, I would take it lovey.
Honestly he will be in good hands & he will improve by the day. Hugs Jo
Thank you for your kind words jo, thats an issue i cant seem to switch off im constantly thinking! but ill feel better once i know whats going on, a rehab nurse has been to hubby today but no one talk to me so i just feel left in the dark of what i need to do for him
I know, I don't think they mean to leave partners out, but I know it happens.
Try & talk to the team leader tomorrow, staff nurse etc. Just tell them how it is effecting you as you feel a bit in the dark.
Remind them you have two young children at home. And that they would be looking at mum for strength. How can you do that if you are in the dark. Just demand a few moments of their time, you have a right to be included.
As far as after care, I think you will find they wont let him go home until they are sure you are both comfortable with everything.
Generally it's just take it easy for a while, no lifting heavy items etc.
But not to just sit around or he'll slow recovery down.
Walking is the best one, little & often, while knowing his limitations. Should not walk too far first few times. He should always remember, wherever he walks to, he has to walk back.
Good healthy diet is a must of course.
And he should learn to relax a couple of times a day by lying down, eyes closed, with maybe a little music.
You could do that together as a family. That would teach the kids about chil out time &;how it is good for everyone.
Ask about cardiac rehabilitation groups, most hospitals have a group. If he can get on one of those, he will feel so much better.
I thought I would just go to one to keep eveveryone happy.
But I went to all of them, usually 8 setions. It was great because it takes any fear out of the event that has turned your world around. It shows you that you can probably do a lot more than you dared to dream. Basically you can get back to pretty much what you did before. They just teach you how to ease your way back gentally & gradually. The one I went to at the BRI in Bristol, let your partners sit in if they wanted to.
Really, now they are on to it, he will be fine. Just a little patients on all parts.
Whatever you do though, try to get him to do things for himself where possible & appropriate.
If you feel he is being a bit off with you. Please don't take it to heart, excuse the pun.
Give him a little space, then have a sit down & explain how this effects you. And how he has to be patient too......hugs, Jo
Thank you so much jo it's great to chat with Someone that has gone through this... I'm sat here crying at 4am in the morning too much stuff warring around in the head, roll on 6pm when I'm at the hospital x
he is in the best possible hands. They will concentrate on getting him better then you can start to think about causes, as he is so young I would think a weakness somewhere but you never know. Its a difficult time for you both especially with young children. I can understand your worry but do go and ask questions of the nurses and doctors, yes they are busy but they will be as helpful as they can be regards next steps, medication etc.
What you need to do is try and rest as if you're exhausted its not helping you. Even if its just feet up and laying down
Oh you poor thing, I hope you did manage to rest. Just try to stay calm, so you don't land up ill yourself. I agree the staff are always overworked very busy.
That is why sometimes it is easy to forget how anxious & upset the family may be.
So just a little reminder you are there & I am sure they will answer any worrying inquirys you may have. They are so supportive, so they would want you to be happy