Dating with psoriasiss

[Pinkyboo1967]

Hi anyone on here find dating hard with psoriasiss .

[dannykilbride]

Yes but not in the way many understand it. I'm married and constantly amazed my wife doesn't vomit as soon as I come in the room. I have been like this for better or worse over thirty years and am married for the second time. I've also had a few relationships between marriages. The women all say it doesn't matter to them and I genuinely believe it doesn't, but it does matter to me. If I'm being prescribed a cream (and they all stink of coal tar) then it's hard to give her the glad eye when you smell like a shed.....

Stick with it, it's mostly in your head

[Terrymay in reply to dannykilbride]

Hi I have had it for over forty years & have recently realized that drinking Alcohol makes it worse, I feel it is because Alchohol over activates your kidneys as most people must realize how they need to visit the bathroom more often & drinking more alcohol to rehydrate your system only makes things worse, try drinking more water & make it a regular habit instead of Wine etc, I found it made a large difference as our bodies we are told are made up mostly of water & we need to keep this level up.

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I'd find it hard without psoriasis I think, well I used to!

Perhaps I'm just over-sensitive but looking for love always seemed to be a mug's game to me. In the end I pretty much decided it would either come along or it wouldn't ..... and it did. If someone thinks you're wrong for them then anything about you gets the blame - even things that would seem to be positive. And when you have got something like psoriasis it is always going to be uppermost in your mind when asking yourself why a potential relationship didn't work out.

Even in these ludicrously body-conscious days, most of us still have keen instincts for who is and isn't 'right' for us. Believe me, when someone sees you and 'just knows', your psoriasis won't make any difference whatsoever. Meanwhile, it probably will make you feel self-conscious, even a bit self-hating at times if it is bad. Just work on that as much as you can, it is all any of us can do about any aspect of ourselves that bugs us. Try not to let it affect the essential you any more than it has to. I hate psoriasis but it is not the end of the world and it does not render a person unattractive.

I once went on a blind date with a gorgeous looking young man, just like the proverbial greek god. He was obsessed with budgerigars, totally obsessed. He had hundreds of them. At the end of the evening he drove us to the beach, parked up, opened the glove compartment and got out some of his budgie books and a torch and proceeded to educate me on the subject. I like budgies, they're okay. But I think HE may have had a real problem on the dating front.

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Hi Pinkyboo1967

Not that I've dated for over 26 yrs since I met my wife but I think honesty is the best policy. I told my wife when we first met as if your relationship gets serious they are going to see you in the buff so best to let them be aware before hand. Nothing worse then just springing on someone in a romantic situation. If the person cares for you and not just about your body then things should be fine

Mike 😊

[hbn25]

I have recently been diagnosed with Psoriasis and just before my initial flare-up we broke up (which may have something to do with the flare-up on the stress side!) I have been on 1 date since and I was constantly paranoid he could see my psoriasis or all the flakes that fall from my scalp because of it. I dont want to do that again until I have it a bit more under control!

[Pinkyboo1967 in reply to hbn25]

Yes know how you feel. Mines really bad at the moment. But I get stressed more about the thought of dating so makes it worse.

[hbn25 in reply to Pinkyboo1967]

Tell me about it! I am trying to avoid going out too much until I have it under a bit more control and luckily I only work with 1 other person. At the moment I tend to stick to light coloured tops and going out when its dark so people cannot see too much! Such a trial and error on products and which works and I am very new to this so it all freaks me out. As you said, the stress of it makes it worse

[Pinkyboo1967 in reply to hbn25]

Yes it's bad an awful thing to live with. My mate as it to. She goes on sunbeds and it helps. I might start giving it a go.