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Ist July - How time has raced/dragged

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Which is it for you?

Chloe<3

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hate summer it always drags in more so July my late sons birthday on the 13th.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to kenster1

I can understand that Kenny<3

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Caza in reply to chloe40

This year seems to of flown by for me. I’ve deliberately tried to fill my diary, a distraction, it helps sort of. Loads of things booked in. Hate letting people down so it sort of helps getting me out. With a couple of voluntary things I do we are committed up until Christmas so time is flying by. Time & seasons really have no effect on me now just try to live day by day.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Caza

I'm glad to read this Caza, I always find keeping occupied really helps. I'm feeling it myself alongside kenster1 as I haven't anything on right now <3

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I make myself Chloe or some days I just don’t want to get out of bed. So most days I book something in & try hard to keep to it. I find the weekends the hardest especially in the summer all seems to about about intact families & of course they always seem to be happy. Even though I know it isn’t true & even though I shouldn’t begrudge them I somehow do. I know I’ve been very fortunate in the past to of had what I had & I should be grateful but still……

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Caza

Absolutely Caza,I think you've possess the 'inner push' that I just don't have, I wish I did.

It doesn't take much to pick me up and I seem to need something different so often, but today has been okay, our to lunch, which is rare and have seen my daughter, so a good day <3

Chloe

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Caza in reply to chloe40

That’s good to hear x

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Caza in reply to kenster1

April for me is the worst. Know how you feel x

This year is flying by, weeks turn into months too fast. Someone has put the clocks on fast forward 🙈

I try to fit in as much as possible into every day. I try to say "yes" more than "no" especially to new things. Time is so precious. I sometimes look back at how much I "wasted" and am even more determined to maximise what's in front of me

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chloe40Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo

Hi JoWow, what a fabulous outlook on life you have :-) I just love your positivity.

You go for it Jo and enjoy every moment.

Chloe

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GoGo_JoJo in reply to chloe40

Yesterday at Seaford/Cuckmere. Spending more time on and around the sea has proved very therapeutic and healing around my feelings attached to my late parents. There was a time I hated being by the seaside. Time, and acceptance really does heal 💖

Paddleboarding
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chloe40Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo

I'm really glad you've found this so therapeutic Jo, that's so good to know.Carry on doing what you're doing <3

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Caza in reply to GoGo_JoJo

That’s great Jo, totally agree with you.I decided that I would try hard to say “yes” rather than no. I make sure that I plan something for every day If I really don’t feel up to it I don’t beat myself up, I just let it go.

I had a couple of days last week where I was missing my daughter & sister so much I was struggling to put one foot in front of the other. But that’s ok by the weekend I was up & running again. Had the most amazing weekend with my nephew & his wife. We went to an outdoor concert it was just fantastic. If I’d listened to the voices in my head I wouldn’t of gone.

As for the sea I find it a great comfort very calming.

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GoGo_JoJo in reply to Caza

That's brilliant. So glad you had a good weekend with family 💖

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