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Strange reaction or is it me who’s strange.

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Caza
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As a treat to myself for my birthday I had a Forever Bracelet fitted. For those of you who are unfamiliar with it, it’s a bracelet where there’s a very small tube like part that you can put hair & or ashes of your loved one.

Well my friend came round to wish me happy birthday & I told her. She was appalled, why on earth would you keep a lock of your dead daughter & sisters hair. What was I meant to do bin it 😡. Is it strange am I strange.

Love my bracelet & what it means, so I don’t care 😤

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Sandradsn profile image
Sandradsn

You are not strange,if you love your bracelet that's what matters.I'm sure it is a comfort to you.Its quite thoughtless of your friend to say that.I sometimes wish I'd kept some ashes to place somewhere special or close by.

I hope you had a nice birthday though💐x

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Caza in reply to Sandradsn

I had a really busy & lovely birthday thank you. Best I’ve had for years & part of that was that I felt my daughter & my sister were included. My friend didn’t ask me about my daughters ashes, thank goodness. They’re here waiting for me to be mingled with her & scattered in the sea. I’m not sure she would’ve coped with that. Too much info me thinks 😂

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Sandradsn in reply to Caza

Yes too much info for her😉Glad you had a lovely birthday 🦋

Keep us posted about your new job.x

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Caza in reply to Sandradsn

No new job for me. Think your mixing me up with someone else x

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Sandradsn in reply to Caza

Ooops sorry

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chloe40Administrator

I'm amazed and saddened that a so called friend would say such a thing Caza

I think it's a wonderful idea and belated Happy Birthday to you!

I just hope she hasn't tainted your loving thoughts but I suspect she has, try and erase a stupid comment and be proud of your treasure

😘🎂

Chloe

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Caza in reply to chloe40

Thanks for your birthday wishes. I truly had a great birthday. No she hasn’t tainted it but I did wonder if I was “normal” & perhaps I should lie in future.

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kenster1Volunteer

hi it`s nothing to do with your friend maybe she`s not lost anyone close to understand.I`ve got my sons hair and hand prints in an envelope that was given to me by the hospital and if I was a jewellery type of guy I`d probably do the same as you.

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Caza

No she hasn’t. But her daughter & mine were best friends so I sort of thought she’d get it. Got that wrong didn’t I 🙄It’s so sad isn’t it. I only built up the courage to look in “the bag” last year only to put it away again. Jewellery mobile etc….

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NeuroSeeker

You do what you need to do. Nothing wrong with wearing a talisman made with elements of those we miss.

Fly your flag, Caza. I'm learning. It shall be liberating.

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Caza in reply to NeuroSeeker

No one has yet asked me about the bracelet, would I say if they asked, probably not. Yes we keep learning don’t we

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NeuroSeeker in reply to Caza

Sometimes, people ask questions that they haven't earned the answer to, meaning that you don't have to answer if you don't want to.

Maybe come up with a response that you have in your back pocket in case someone takes you off guard with a question you don't want to answer. ❤️

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Caza in reply to NeuroSeeker

Wise words. Thank you x

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NeuroSeeker in reply to Caza

You bet. Just passing along what someone told me. It's helped me a lot.

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