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to my Dad, giving him my good news, and bad and even ask advice at times, then I put the letters in my memory box.

I find it so helpful to actually be able to 'talk' to him and build my memories too.

Have you tried this?

Chloe <3

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GoGo_JoJo

I don't write letters but I do talk to him, either in my head or out loud. I found it most helpful in the first year but I still do it now when I feel the need, 7 years on. 👍🏻

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That’ really good I feel Jo, glad it helps.💜

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Sandradsn

I'm going to try that.I do talk to my mums photo.

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Yes, Sandradsn , do try, I' do hope you find it comforting<3

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Caza

That’s good that you’ve found a way to connect with your dad. Pleased it gives you comfort x

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Lperica10

I haven’t tried this but it sounds like a good idea. Now that I have a son and my dad will never meet him I find myself doing things with him my dad did with me when I was little. And when we are at these parks, or whenever it may be I “feel” my dad. So I do “talk” to him. But I used to journal so this writing idea could help to.

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chloe40Administrator in reply toLperica10

Journaling is really helpful and it’s so good to do the things your Dad did with you too x

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klr31

I talk to my mum in my head and heart especially if out and about somewhere I know she would have loved.

Karen

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That’s lovely Karen x

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Arniestal

I talk to mums photo, and in my head too. I also say out loud what mums comment would be on a certain subject. I know how she would look if she didn't agree etc. All these things keep them alive for us. I can't let my mum go she is too much a part of me. I may try the letter writing, thank you, im glad it helps you.

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That’s smashing Arniestal She always will be too x

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YourFriendAsh

Hi Chloe. That sounds like a very good way to communicate with your dad. I would always call my dad and it can be difficult not being able to pick up the phone and just talk about nonesense..struggles..and daily life. I called his number the other day just to hear the phone ring again. I am hoping I can one day work up the courage to speak out loud even if i know he might not be there to respond

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chloe40Administrator in reply toYourFriendAsh

Hi YourFriendAsh A very warm welcome to you <3

Yes, I completely understand, thank you so much for your post <3

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Chase888

Grief effects people in different ways.

When my mum died I kept busy and after 2years one night a man hurt my feelings and without thinking I said "I want my mum".

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Yes, that's for sure Chase888

That's so strange but we always want our Mum when we're upset <3

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Kathush

I text my own phone number and talk to momma that way. It's like texting her and i have done so since the very day she passed.It does give me some comfort being able to "share" news with her.

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chloe40Administrator in reply toKathush

Now, that's very unique Kathush <3

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