never had an orgasm.10 years of sex life.31years old now how does it feel?

sometimes i feel so embaraced and sad at the same.I have abstained for 6yrs since my divorce because i see no good thing worthty of trying. To me sex is more of satifying my partner than enjoying anything to myself.what do i do? im i just one unlucky type of a woman?I had pain before and i have tried working around that to overcome.no matter what i do im still the same when it comes to sex. Now i have a new partner,he loves me alot and im still worried about this issue.My reactions confuses him.He is ready to take it easy with me.No sex no breast touching because i also feel uncomfortable with my breast since i breastfed before.my self confidence is dropping so bad.Help me i love him and dont want to lose him honestly.

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  • Hi Need

    If you have access to a women's sexual wellbeing service, that would be the best place to start. This type of service would look at possible physical explanations as well as emotional / psychological for reasons you don't enjoy sex or haven't been able to orgasm. In the larger cities, this may be easier to find than if you are located in less urban areas. You could try going to your GP and asking for a counselling referral, or possibly to a GUM service as they may be able to offer some advice as well.

    And to reassure you, there are many females (and males!) who feel uncertain and frustrated about sex, so you are certainly not alone. It could mean putting a bit of effort into finding the help that suits you best, but it is definitely out there.

    Best of luck

    khandersuk

  • thanks alot. wont give up.

  • get a competent shrink in your disability, and go to counseling with your man.

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