FET planned for possible baby number 2. Feeling overwhelmed by everything and overthinking already!

[Keepingfaith85]

I thought it might help to write out how I’m feeling. If I’m honest I’m not sure we’re ready for another. Mainly because my first is such a handful with low sleep needs, my husbands working hours can be difficult and we have no family who can help nearby. I do love being a mum and would love to expand our family, it just feels like now or never really as I’m 38 and we are so lucky to have two frosties left. I don’t want to look back and regret not giving them a chance if that makes sense? But I feel guilty not being as excited as I was the first time around. Maybe I’m just feeling overwhelmed as I know the reality of how difficult pregnancy and baby years are this time, whereas I didn’t know that part before! I think if I’m successful we have a very difficult few years ahead. If we’re not successful I hope I feel some sort of closure as I wouldn’t want to go through all the stims again.

I’m not really in any doubt about doing FETs but it’s just such a jumble of different emotions compared to last time and I’m hoping I will be able to cope with the outcome whichever way it goes.

[Littlepeax]

Hi lovely, how are you? When is the FET planned for? Wow this is almost how i would feel if we were to try again. We also have 2 left 🥰 very overwhelming especially as you know what is to come. Don't feel guilty, before you wanted to be a mum so bad. You are now. So this time will feel different of course. But it's exciting for other reasons. To give your boy a little sibling, to expand your little family and to love another little bubs. Just think you have experience now, that's a positive for any parent. I think you will get excited once you hear that little heartbeat too ♥️

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Littlepeax]

Hiya Littlepeax! Lovely to hear from you! Hope you and your little one are doing well? Ahh thanks for your message, it’s reassuring to know that you’d feel the same. The reasons that it would be so brilliant in a new way are so true though… what will be will be… I’ve just booked in for my scan on Friday to check lining and start hormones from tomorrow!! All very real now and pretty exciting 🥰

[Weareback2]

I also think it is very different with a second as you gave a toddler to distract you which wasn't there before! Best of luck!

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Weareback2]

Yes I’m hoping the two week wait will go quicker this time! Thanks so much! X

[Jonesy84]

Hi lovely, I totally get everything you have said!

It’s such a wierd dilemma! We have no Frosties so as soon as my LB turned 1 we booked in for treatment. I had a MC in Jan and felt so guilty as my heart longed for a sibling for my son but my head was saying can you do this all over again. So many different emotions to contend with.

In the end I know I would regret it if we didn’t try. I did think when my LB is older and he asked about a brother or sister I could explain and say we did try.

We have paid for another 2 rounds due to the fact I had already ovulated in my last round when I went to egg collection. I felt it wasnt a fair go for us. Once they have been used whatever the outcome I’m done. IVF gave me my beautiful boy and for me he’s my treasure. I don’t want to spend any more money or time on chasing something when I have my world in front of me ❤️

Do what you feel is best for you lovely. There is no right or wrong in this xxx

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Jonesy84]

That must have been so difficult going through treatment and miscarriage with a one year old. I’m so sorry about your loss.

That’s exactly what I was thinking. One day when they ask why they don’t have a sibling to know that you tried and can explain that to them eventually. You put it so beautifully when you say you have your whole world in front of you with your son already, that’s how I feel too. It’s definitely less stressful and more of a bonus. Thanks so much for being able to relate and share your story ❤️ I hope your next two rounds go smoothly and help you to complete your family whichever way it goes. As you say, we are already so lucky xxx