What is your biggest problem with social situations as an aspie?

[kizzykat86]

mines seems to be not knowing what to say and what people's intentions are and what they might be thinking does anyone else have this? x

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hi kizzykat, yep i know exactly what you mean. i always stress out about what people are thinking in general and about me. makes me only feel comfortable around my family and best friend. gosh its a challenge sometimes! but i really like meeting other aspies online who understand since i dont know any personally

[kizzykat86]

Well I know exactly how thr feels I'm the same x its nice to meet you aspergersgirl x

[aspergers96]

Talking.... eye contact...

[kizzykat86]

I have the same trouble too aspergers96 x

[Coeurdezero]

I can never see what is going on socially. They call it mind blindness I believe. If I am not getting into trouble for trying to talk to people who don't want to talk to me then I'm getting into trouble for NOT talking to people who allegedly do expect me to talk to them. People can get in a state over something I have or haven't done and I cannot see what is happening. I find this confusing and even scary. I get criticized for not making eye contact but when I try to force myself to make eye contact I seem to come over as such a weirdo that I scare people. You can fail a job interview just on poor eye contact alone. I have no difficulty in talking and I am no way a shy person but other people seem to receive something very different than what I am trying to transmit (if you get the analogy). One example of this is when I feel friendly but am perceived as hostile - I've never understood why.

[aspiemomma]

worrying about people possibly having ideas they really want me to join in with and then me feeling awkward about saying 'no'! it is getting easier as i get older tho and i can explain myself more easily now, whilst still being able to be polite - yay!

[Leenie]

social interaction, forcing myself to make eye contact. Working with colleagues who don't follow the rules, if something has to be done in a certain way and they are doing it differently it makes me extremely anxious.

[tezzer]

Like you all said eye contact, body language ,facial expression knowing the right and wrong time to interact in conversation s this may sound silly but look at someone's ears when talking to them.

[keepcalmandcarryon]

Ive been told that concentrating on the bridge of someones nose works well. It takes away the awkwardness eye contact and the person you are talking to thinks you are making eye contact!

[kizzykat86]

Yeah I tend to look at peoples mouths when I'm talking to them or there talking to me but I need to remember to look away and back so as not to look odd and try and concentrate on what they are saying and think of an answer its tricky business x