ASD & EPILEPSY STRUUGGLING

[Jasperspace]

(1) want a GF but scared of Sex due to much body contact ?

(2) How to understand facial expressions ?

(3) how to manage Emototions ?

(4) where's best place to live for autism users like myself who struggle with life ?

[ncrbrts]

1. There are women out there who also don't necessarily need sex to have a fulfilling relationship. You could seek out one of those people.

2. Understanding facial expressions is a mystery to me too. I often get it wrong. Maybe you could try asking for clarity when you're unsure.

3. Support to manage emotions is best left to professionals like a psychologist. If you don't have psych input and can't access any, there are many online resources to get you started.

4. You could ask a social worker with help for this. If you don't have one, the local authority are duty bound to provide you with one while you undergo a needs assessment.

I hope this is helpful.

[Jasperspace in reply to ncrbrts]

my biggest problem is now previously I was diagnosed with bpd but I was diagnosed at birth & early teens with having been on asd spectrum then in 2016 I had a crisis & started to self harm & gave up with life fed up with seeing the negatives & attempted suicide 4 times I was refused help at time causing many of the public almost see a scared torn up asd man cut & bleed his life away having all EMS trying to help me & cooperating with me.

now im spose to be re-assets to confirm as I miss my support workers & im a almost a prisoner in my own flat as scared to socialize with public as socity can be bullys at times which makes me angry & im not an angry person I would rather be happy.

I use to have 2 support workers, 1 key worker, 2 social workers. & before they left me i was learning to understand facial expressions software to understand been/seeing happy,sad,upset,love,angy,

[forestmist]

Hi

1) This reply comes from a female, so trust me Honestly, the number of women who either aren't interested in sex, or would just happily not bother with it, is really quite large - especially as we get a little older and aren't spotty teenagers anymore. So don't let that get in the way. Also, don't let the epilepsy bother you in this regard. I'm also epileptic as is my husband in law. It wouldn't put me off finding a BF and it certainly hasn't stopped hi from finding someone.

2) No clue. I'm as puzzled as you (I'm on the spectrum). I think it's just a matter of trial and error. Perhaps a little bit of observation / people watching to see how other people react to different facial expressions may help.

3) Still no clue. When you solve this one, let me know. No, in all seriousness, whilst I struggle with my emotions, the one thing I do find helps is meditation and mindfulness. You can teach yourself these, but it requires a lot of discipline. But there are also classes in them if you'd rather pick up the basics. I also agree with the other comment that psychotherapy can help and getting a referral to a psychiatrist is a good idea.

4) I agree with the other comment that this is something best discussed with your social worker (and obtaining one if you don't have a SW). I guess generally speaking it should be wherever you feel safe, wherever feels like it's the right 'fit' for you - the right type of people (maybe a quieter area, or an area with more elderly people, or something else), the right location, the right amenities etc... Most people when visiting places will walk into one and just know it's for them - so perhaps there is no hard and definitive 'best' place, just one that'll feel right.

Good luck