Hellooooo I'm back!!!!!!!!!!!!! Been on hols and dad had an amazing time...

[tanyamarie]

Hi all, my laptop broke a few weeks ago so havn't been on here for a while. Plus we went to South Devon on holiday and were having such a fab time, mainly when the sun came out and we decided to stay a few extra days.

Dad swam half a length which he hasn't done since last year. It was amazing. They were so good there in the holiday park, he had his oxygen on a chair right at the side of the pool so when he needed it he didn't even have to get out. He went walking up the mountain, albeit slowly and managed to get to the same spot he did 4 years ago. He was so pleased and it was simply fantastic.

Dad went paddling in the sea with my little uns and we had a meal out overlooking the beach watching the sunset. Priceless. Memories to treasure forever.

[zaney]

I have missed seeing your posts on here , So pleased you all had a good time sounds like your Dad really enjoyed himself its great that he did so well I am really pleased for him , It must have done him a power of good and lifted his spirits no end and yours as well to see how well he was getting on . Su x

[tanyamarie]

Oh Su, it was great knowing he had such a fab time. I didn't want the holiday to end you know and knowing it may be his last I really wanted it to be special. And when the sun came out, it was like a gift especially for dad.

[valm]

All good Val x

[Hidden]

Welcome back Tanya, so glad you and your dad had such a great time and made some precious memories.

Good Wishes

Zoee

[Hidden]

Hi Tanya,

Glad it had a good effect on on your father, he's lucky to have you, as you are very understanding of what is going on in him and spend a lot of time looking into things so that you understand it, that is really good of you, because even if people wish to feel empathy, it's hard to do that if they do no really grasp what is going on, and in that way, do things that the person who is having the problem, can't handle.

Me, I may talk too fast, then when my daughter reacts in her own heated way, I sometimes feel unwell just by the way she is talking.

My daughter has tended to COPD sufferers on a daily basis but even she would or can be argumentative with me, and I can't handle that, she is a very nice person though, it's just that she does not seem to get it quite.

I went on holiday with her but ended up saying to myself I will not be doing this again.

[tanyamarie in reply to Hidden]

Ah, TJohn, maybe your daughter simply doesn't realise how ill you really are. My dad told us that he had Pulmonary Fibrosis years ago but as it wasn't explained to him the seriousness of it, he didn't say much to us. How could he, he didn't know. So it was only when his specialist said he would arrange palliative care as nothing could be done that I did my research etc.

And I do believe that many ill people don't confide in their loved ones as much as they should because they don't want to burden them and worry them when in my case that would never be the case. In fact I get annoyed with myself for not doing more and sometimes I do snap at my dad because it is easy to get 'lazy' and expect everything to be done for you. I don't mean that in a horrible way, my dad can be sitting there watching tv and ask my mum or me to get him a drink. Now bearing in mind my mum is 71 and has heart trouble and for many years my dad was my mums carer. So my mum would run around after dad and then end up in bed with pains in her chest. Dad is perfectly capable of getting a drink himself and admits it. We have a laugh now about it and make it fun. Plus by making him push himself he's not giving up.

2 years ago I watched my father in-law suffer from lung cancer and he gave up so early on and he lost the use of his legs as all his muscle had gone and I am determined that as long as dad is willing to fight and so far he is a very happy fighter.

[tanyamarie]

Hello Stitch, how are you? How is it going in the gym?

It's nice to be back, I've missed you all!