Don't think I can cope anymore

[Iamhealthy123]

No one seems to understand I have one sister who doesn't want to understand mental health and lung and breast cancer and just one friend who struggles with his own issues I'm not eating much and sleeping badly plus I've got the stress of selling my house I really don't know who to turn to just scared I will just be put into a mental home.

[Izb1]

I have a sister that is Schizophrenic and if i have any concerns I can contact her social worker who can help out, her gp is also wonderful. Have you been appointed a social worker or have spoken to your gp about your mental health concerns. I am sorry to hear that your sister doesn't understand your health problems, alot of families dont seem to have time for each other nowadays. There is alot of help out there please dont be afraid to ask for it because you fear being put into a mental home, first point of call is your gp x

[leo60]

I feel for you, my sister doesn't understand my issues either! Please don't suffer this alone, yes, we are here, but we can't actually DO anything for you. Please make an appointment with your GP, you will find help, as Izb1 says . Good luck my darling, do it today, you will feel so much better, I promise xx

[Donald_1931]

Well I think I can join in here. I'm sure my daughter thinks I've only got old solely to annoy her! In my experience family members are too close to offer meaningful advice. Reading some of the expressions you use to describe your condition makes me wonder if you have been consulting Doc Google. Though very knowledgeable he is notorious for pinning a badge on you and then giving you the worst possible likely outcome, enough to scare the pants off the most courageous of readers. The name you have chosen for yourself tells me there a great positive attitude hiding in there. Best Regards, Don xx

[Iamhealthy123 in reply to Donald_1931]

Don the name I gave myself was ages ago before I got sick.Thank you though x

[Donald_1931 in reply to Iamhealthy123]

Your body might have deteriorated, as with all of us, but you are still the same person. 😉x

[Ascb]

Hi, sorry you feel so unsupported. You can refer yourself for some help and support with how physical health affects mental health with a long term conditions trained therapist - Google IAPT talking therapy in you local area. All best wishes to you.

[Ascb]

Oh I forgot - I read your other posts and picked up on your concerns about being put in a mental home. Honestly, if you were having a psychotic episode you wouldn't be saying you were worried you were having a psychotic episode! And even people who are seriously mentally unwell only ever get sectioned if they are immediately at risk of suicide or of harming others. So you can put those particular worries aside.

[CDPO16]

You have lots of people here who understand. You aren't alone x

[katieoxo60]

Hello lamhealthy123, think most of us get like this on some days with health issues. Remember no one feels the same when ill even people with the same illness. Where I live you can self refer for anxiety and depression , but speaking from experience I would tell your GP you cannot cope and need support. Sadly our care system is in a sorry state right now so chances of a social worker to talk to are very slim. If you want info on cancer try Macmillan Services on line there is a number on there for their phone line too. They can give you details on how to cope with many things besides health issues. Good luck and best wishes, take care.

[Mellywelly]

Crikey, selling your house as well as your other problems. No wonder you feel the way you do. You sound like your ready to throw the towel in. Please get help from your gp or ring the professionals ie samaritans or other groups as they will have all the information you will need. Please keep posting as I am sure everyone will agree that this was your first step for getting help. We all need help now and again. 😉👍

[2013mayo]

Thinking if you and hope you get through this difficult time. Try to eat as it will help you mentally and physically. 💐

[Ergendl]

Do consider contacting the mental health charity Mind. Their website is mind.org.uk/ . Over many years of mental health problems, I never had to stay on a mental health ward. I used to act as secretary for my local Mind group. It was a place of great support, and they even set up a half-way house in our local town for people returning to the community.

Hoping you find your way through this present dark patch, one step at a time.

[Alberta56]

I agree that Mind are lovely. Mencap is pretty good too and their councillors are all helpful and non-judgemental. Hope you can find a way out of your current situation. Last night I cooked frozen stir fry, Straight to Wok noodles and Ben's Sweet and Sour sauce. A not too difficult way to feed self plus 2 hungry people. The noodles are good when you can't face cooking. So are naans, pittas and cous cous. Bless you xxx

[Nicholatracy]

Please stay strong and contact the social worker 🐞

[strongmouse]

There are organisatsions you can phone to talk to someone about how you feel and the difficulties you are going through. They will listen to you and support you.

You can phone the Samaritans 116 123 at any time for free, or you can email them, but they don't answer emails straight away - samaritans.org/how-we-can-h...

SHOUT have a text service -85258 - which apparently works 24/7 - and puts you into with appropriate volunteer.

If you are finding it difficult dealing with breast cancer then you can call Macmillan Cancer Support. You can phone them on 0808 808 00 00. (open 8am - 8pm)

As Don has said sometimes it helps to talk to people who are not so involved in our lives, for all sorts of complicated reasons. They may be able to suggest practical support to. Knowing there are is someone there who will listen and understand can make such a difference.

You might make an appointment to see your GP too.

You have a lot going on and it will help to look for outside support.

[Patk1]

Hope Yr feeling a little better.macmillan nurses will support u,with cancer diagnosis.do look online for their contact details x

[Thinkhealthy]

Is there a local age concern / age uk ? Many of their staff have a really broad experience and can direct you to support - but as everyone else suggests you should contact your gp. Hope you get some back up x