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I'm not sure what to make of it!

9 months ago•16 Replies

I don't really want to fan the flames but need to get this off my chest.

Yesterday, someone asked what others would do if they were faced with the situation that had made her feel upset and angry.

I wrote about a couple of experiences I have had and said how I felt and how I generally dealt with things. As far as I know, I was not being offensive in any way, but I received a very curt reply telling me to read the post properly as I had got it all wrong and, before I could do so, the post was removed.

I rarely make negative comments on here, but just now I feel rather annoyed that people were asked to share their views and, because the person who asked for those views didn't like some of them, the whole post was shut down and she will now only communicate with people she considers to be friends.

I try to put myself in the other person's shoes in such circumstances and accept that it might be a bad day and, later, she might feel like being part of the group again. I hope she does as I know she will be missed if she leaves.

However, I still can't get my head around the fact that she asked for people's opinions/experiences and then got upset when people told her what they thought.

Don't ask if you don't want to hear the answer.

xx Moy

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CarolMcl9 months ago

Hi Moy, I one hundred percent agree with you.......if you don't want to know then don't ask! I didn't comment on the post as I personally found it offensive, in my opinion it could've been dealt with more sensitively. The world is full of different opinions, that's human nature. If someone politely asks if you require help and you feel you don't want it then graciously say no thank you I can manage. An outcome without aggravation 🌹

MoyB• in reply toCarolMcl9 months ago

👍xx Moy

Blackbird89 months ago

Hi 👋 I think I saw the post you've referred to ..

Don't be upset or annoyed with anything just let the tide wash it away and have a lovely day .

I have never known you not to be pleasant and it comes full of humour that I appreciate and I can tell from your posts and replies your one of the best 😍

MoyB• in reply toBlackbird89 months ago

Thank you for your lovely reply! I won't hang on to the negative vibes the post left me with as we all have a bad day sometimes, and perhaps yesterday was hers.

I felt a bit flummoxed by the whole thing, though, and when I got what I thought was a rather strange reply, considering what I had written, I found I had no opportunity to re-read it and - if necessary - clarify it or apologise for an unintentional slight. The whole of the post (including my reply) had been shut down and removed.

Ah well, I think it's the first time this has happened to me in all the years I've been on here so I won't let it get to me.

Thanks again for your reply - and for your brilliant photos! I don't comment on all of them but I do love them. xx Moy

Turnipgirl• in reply toMoyB9 months ago

How are you and Socks the cat getting on?

helenlw79 months ago

I read the post you refer to, I didn’t comment because I had some doubts.

Swizzy9 months ago

Dear MoyB you are not on your own. Several of us had the same reaction from the poster. I was told to get off her post because of what I thought were helpful suggestions as to how to deal with the way offers of support made her feel. She was just looking for nasty put downs to people who offered help. Put it out of your mind and don't let it upset you. It isn't worth it. Most members on here are only to grateful of help with what life has dealt them and that includes the support, advice and love of those on this forum.

MoyB• in reply toSwizzy9 months ago

Yes, I saw your post and her reply to you which made me very careful in the way I worded my own post.

As the old saying goes, 'There's none so queer as folk!'

xx Moy

Ern0079 months ago

Moy B - Don't try and make sense of anything - not worth it, I have long since ceased to worry about unwelcome comments.

MoyB• in reply toErn0079 months ago

I won't be losing sleep over it, Ern, but I was just left scratching my head a bit at such a strange response!

Keep the paintings coming! I don't always comment, but I do like to see them. xx Moy

Ern007• in reply toMoyB9 months ago

Don't lose any sleep, worry solves nothing Take care

Nula29 months ago

Hi Moy, you're right but don't let it upset you - take care and keep posting. 😊❤️xxx

peege9 months ago

I'm with you Moy, I'd be flummoxed on offering my opinion after being asked for it on the post too.

Dottie119 months ago

Hi MoyB. As Peege said were all a bit flummoxed as opinion was asked for. Please do not be concerned over it and hopefully she will return soon. xx

Izb19 months ago

You weren't alone being flummoxed by the post, I didn't reply as it seemed too angry but did agree with the reply from Caspiana. As Blackbird says let the tide wash it away x

moderator_AandLUKAdministratorVolunteer9 months ago

I was on holiday when this issue “kicked off”, so I missed the original post which Admin deleted; replies were subsequently blocked on the 2nd such post. It is clear that Admin considers posts of this sort (and some of the responses) to be contrary to the spirit and letter of the T&Cs and forum guidelines; they were becoming too personal and this is a public forum on which discussions of that nature are not appropriate.

With the exception of the more light-hearted and illustrative posts, which do much to raise the spirit of readers, members should restrict posts and responses to those which further the cause of lung health and support those with lung conditions; straying too far from the main objective of the forum is a sure way for the post to be contentious or misconstrued.

I am turning off the ability to reply to this post and will delete any further posts on this subject.