Update the new year will soon be starting and dosnt look much brighter than the last 2 years . Good news that mum's partner James is hoping to come home on Friday he still can't walk or move around but they say it's going to take time and home is the best place . So mum will be carer to us both which is hard on her as its not going to be easy . But James has been there for us so now it's his turn to be cared for but he is going to find it hard as he was always a work oholic and now stuck in bed. James was my rock also and drove me everywhere I needed to go as mum dosnt drive so might have to try and learn to drive but hate it ,but if it helps mum I will try .getting to college is going to be harder as can't walk and catch a bus as to far for me and even in wheelchair its impossible as paths and roads terrible . Might have to go by taxi but not looking forward to that as get very anxious doing anything new but will try and be brave . Take care everyone .Happy New year.
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That does sound hard on your lovely mum Pokermon but I’m hoping things work out for you all. It will be good for James to be home again and I hope he makes a good recovery in time. Don’t worry about getting to college as you will do it. A taxi may have to do in the short term unless someone else can take you.
Take care and wishing you all the best for 2022. Xxx💜
Good news that James is coming home …..has the hospital put a care package in place before he is discharged ? Carers coming in daily , specialist equipment etc ?
Social worker on the case ?
Physiotherapist calling ?
I know my neighbour had the necessary equipment delivered and physio came after his discharge .
About your taxi , can your college help you arrange that ?
Take care now , sending best wishes to all.
James will probably be glad to be going home. I hope that the hospital have arranged for him to have care and rehabilitation at home to aid his continued recovery and support your mum. I think that you may cope better than you expect if you go to college by taxi too. Best wishes to you all.
see what knitter says .glad for james to be home don't worry about college . it will all work out and good luck for the new year at college.
It does sound hard but we know both you and your mom are strongYes it will be difficult at first, but I'm sure you will get into a routine. James is so lucky to have your mam . Will be thinking of you all. Have a good night and take care,Happy New Year to you all 😊 Bernadette and Jack 🐕 xxxxxx
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You must make sure your mum gets all the outside help she needs Pokermon,i know from experience that those promiced physio and rehab visits soon disappear for stroke victims unless you are really reactive in keeping that level of support.You too can be proactive with college and make sure they help with your transport needs in liason with social services.
It is nice that james is home,just being with you both will improve his mental well being and positivity which goes a long way in stroke recovery .
Good luck to you all in the New year and i hope things slowly return to near normal in the months to come.
Best wishes Ski's and Scruff's.
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Hi Pokerman this is my first post on here and I’d like to wish you all the best for when James comes home. I’ve just found myself in a similar position, my husband had a massive stroke on Christmas Eve and at the moment I’m feeling very vulnerable and uncertain, I’m sure this is how everyone must feel when they see the mountain the stroke victim needs to climb. Keep us posted re James recovery and how you and your mum are coping. Love and best wishes to all.
Hi Pokermon. What a lot you and your mum have to face but, I know you are a strong young lady and can do it. James is very lucky to have two really good people to help him through this. Whilst you may not be able to do much manually, you will be able to sit and talk with James be supportive and let him know he is not alone in all this. As far as college goes, I am sure that if you explain everything to them they will do their utmost to help you get the transport sorted out. Don't be afraid to tell them how anxious you feel at the thought of a taxi, they will help you.Keep strong young lady, we are all thinking of you and sending you lots of hugs.
John
I’m glad that James will be able to come home but I completely understand how you feel. As others have said, he should be entitled to a care package from the hospital to help his recovery. The idea of getting to college by taxi may seem overwhelming right now, but I’m sure that after the first time your confidence will quickly grow. I’m sure James will benefit from being back home and I really hope he makes a good recovery. Sending lots of good wishes and strength to you all xx
Just reading your story. That's tough! Hope that James improves being home with you & your Mum & best of luck getting to college & for the New Year! 💕
I love the fact that you are so caring and appreciative of both your Mum and James. I also acknowledge the difficulties you will need to manage now that your home situation has changed so much.
Certainly, as others have said, you all need help and support right now - but you may need to demand it (in the nicest, most polite way) rather than just tell people of your difficulties. Do ask for help from adult social services, or whoever you feel is most appropriate to meet the need. A care package is certainly something I would be asking firmly for and your college or education department may be able to assist with transport so that you can continue your studies. However, I know that in my own area and others, transport has been cut back, so you may need to arrange it and pay for it yourself. I do hope that you are claiming any benefits you are entitled to. I am wondering if you have had a benefits review since you turned 18? It may be something else to ask for.
I have always been impressed with the way you and your family have coped with things and I have no doubt that you will manage to find ways around your current difficulties, but it may take time.
Emotionally, it can be very difficult to adjust, and I especially note your concern about new experiences. Regarding taxi travel, it would no doubt help if you could book regularly from the same firm and that way, you may get the same driver.
I do hope that James makes a good recovery, albeit a slow one, and that you and your Mum get all the help you need and deserve.
I wish you and your family the very best for 2022 and send you all virtual hugs. ((((( ❤️ )))))
xx Moy
Hope James is better soon. I agree with sassy - you should take taxis in the short term - it is a necessity under the circumstances Pokermon. Good luck with everything going forward x
I wouldn't want to persuade you to try driving if you feel nervous/anxious. However, I would encourage you to have a go if at all possible. When I am driving I often think "aren't I clever" and "I am so pleased I did learn to drive". It did take a time to pass and this was only because eventually I found the right driving instructor for me - an older man who was patient, calm and didn't make me feel nervous. I had had two or three instructors before him and didn't get on at all well. I can remember one shouting at me and another, who was a lady instructor, was such a horsey type that I didn't feel comfortable with her either. So a friendly, patient and kind instructor is a must for anybody who does suffer with nerves/anxiety. My husband is very elderly now and does not drive nor does my son who lives with us and suffers with some disability. Therefore, being able to drive is so very helpful especially as both myself and husband often have GP and hospital appointments to attend, Family shopping is also much easier if you can drive to local supermarket and park in their car park. I wish you success with your driving if you do decide to try.
Well you have been given good advice from people on here Pokeman. I am so pleased James is coming home, it will help you all to get through this and its surprising just how strong you really are x
Hi. So glad James is coming home. I'm sure his recovery will be much quicker once home with you and mum. Really hope you have lots of help and support to get him settled in. Wishing you all the best for the coming year. Take care xxx❤️
It's good news that James is well enough to come home, after you were so worried about him earlier. I wouldn't think of driving lessons until things have settled down a bit, especially while the days are so dark and miserable. Social Services arranged a taxi for my daughter Sue to take her to the autistic day centre she goes to. Her current driver is as nice as pie- goes out of his way to be helpful. If he can't do it, his mate does, who is also very nice. I hope you get someone like them. It could be a change for the better. 🤞🤞 Hope that James will keep getting better with some TLC. Happy New year to all of you. xxxx
Good news about James coming home. Big changes for you all at the moment. You have been given good advice above from quite a number of people. Take care. Xx
Dear pokermon I do feel for you it’s so awful when you have to rely on other people so much. I do hope you manage to cope with it all love and hugs Barbs x
It's good news that James is able to come home. Hopefully he will improve even faster once he's back home. Wishing you all the best with your transport conundrum. Although driving is a bit scary, I loved it when I'd passed my test and gained the freedom of being able to drive where I wanted to.
Hi, I had not caught up with the most recent news on all that you are coping with. It will be scary to have so many changes all at the same time but it always seems that you and your family find a way through.
I f the taxi route helps to just keep you in college for now go for it and it might not be as scary as you think.
I have found that learning to drive becomes easier when you have a need for it and perhaps that is developing for you.
Take care. It’s the start of a New Year. Have a happy one!
Grace
My beautiful mum♡♥
My mum
For those who are interested my mum who was in hospital with a broken hip is now out.
