Sorry I didn’t do my usual positive post 😊I had to rush at Dad’s bedside, he has pneumonia and cardiac arrhythmia 😢
So 7.30 am he phoned calling me for help.
What do they do in those nursing homes but cash in..🙃
So drips and oxygen tank and a lot of patience and reassurance needed..he wanted to pull everything off..not an easy day..I wished they had hospitalised him..but they’d rather make me pay for extra night duty etc 🤨
Then his physiotherapist saw I was struggling to breathe and she gave me an essential oils chest and back massage! So that was nice..there is always somebody compassionate who reconciles with human nature..😇
Oh Fran! It’s not good when you know your dear dad is in a nursing home. Thank goodness you could get to be with him but these things take a toll on your own health.
I do wish your dad well and take good care of yourself too.
Thank you Carole 🤗..can’t be helped unfortunately..I think it gave them a scare because the manager came to see me while I was having lunch..I kicked up a fuss this morning, couldn’t get through to anybody..I finally got through to reception and asked them to get the on-call doctor..
This afternoon SOS Oxygen arrived with a huge tank for a week’s worth, I had to sign for that too..so the doctor said they didn’t want him to be more disoriented, that’s why they were handling it..and because he was fragile at his age..
Of course I don’t want to cross the line and end up with Dad back home..but they are no fools..
Thank you Carole. Good to know I am not the only one facing these types of problems..sometimes you think is it me? Am I being unreasonable?
It was a little like when the doctor was talking about Mum’s age, here he was preparing me to accept the inevitable, such as should something happen your father will be more comfortable in familiar surroundings..
Oh Fran Im so sorry you had to deal with all that today, but your dad is so lucky to have you look out for him. It makes me angry the way these care homes behave sometimes but it seems at least someone showed kindness when you were showing signs of distress.
I hope your father, and you both start to feel better very soon.
Life can be such a pig at times. I do hope things improve for you and your Dad.
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Thank you Don x
Oh Fran, what a horrible day. I hope that your Dad will be doing better soon. The massage sounds lovely. It just shows that there are some nice people around. Take care of yourself. I am thinking about you.xx
The nurses and care assistants are lovely but there are not enough of them when a patient needs 24h care..
Dad is 88 with multiple health problems so it was quite hard to find a nice medicalised nursing home which wanted to take him. It took me nearly a year from the time he left hospital after a 2 month stay.
Finally I was recommended that residential home, which is attached to an hospital, an all-in-one, where they can easily wheel patients through from the residence when there is a problem.
I feel he is safe there and I have been able to relax a little more until another medical problem set in.
Bea has been driving me up and down yesterday with her shingles poor thing..
I had a good night after that essential oils massage though because I couldn’t breathe yesterday, Dad’s room was very stuffy and I had to wear a mask, which I couldn’t really stand.
Anyway meditation time and breathing exercises before that cup of tea. 😃
Have a good day Irene, thanks for thinking of me xx
Oh no Fran. I am so sorry your dad is poorly. How upsetting for the both of you. I know about nursing homes. I had six years experience with them here. 😑 Please make sure you care for yourself too.
I am glad there was a kind soul to give you a lift. Isn't it funny how some angel comes out of nowhere at times.
I too wish you and your father the best of such a sad situation in his health it's hard we went thur it with our mother you take care of yourself so you can look in on your dad hope he starts to feel better and you also
I hope , Fran, that your dad is more settled today. I too went through a similar scenario with my father, his nursing home would send him to hospital when he contracted chest infections.
I wish I had thought of wearing a mask though, I was often told not to visit him because of the risk to my poorly lungs.
It's like having to walk a tight rope dealing with all the different agencies.
I couldn’t really keep the mask on my nose and mouth for such a long day..I was gasping for air.it doesn’t matter..I started nebulising this morning anyway..
Hope your Dad gets better soon. So lovely to hear that there are people out there who help others to feel a little better. I went through trying times a couple of years ago looking after Mum and holding down a full time job, it takes it's toll on you, so look after yourself.
Fran it sounds like you are coping admirably. Your poor Dad must be so scared, hopefully he will now be feeling slightly better and more settled. Wearing a mask would make me struggle to breathe too and how lovely that someone took time to help you.
I am very sori for what u are going thru with your Dad, I really dont like sum rest homes, for that very reason, I work as a Health Care Assistant for a Bureau so I am not based at just one place, I would rather work in the Hospitals than Resthomes, but not all resthomes are like that.... but I do sympathise with you... I also have Breathing probs....
Thanks Shirley 😊 Doctor came by and prescribed nebs as well because he could hear crackling..I think it is going to be a long and slow process..On my way up now..
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I do hope things improve for you and your Dad.
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