This is what my girlfriend wrote to me...

Cancer has a strange effect on people,this is what my girlfriend of two years wrote:I'm very sorry, but I cannot be yours any longer. Someone loves me, and I want to be happy with him here in Japan.

[Hidden]

Oh dear

I dont think that was the cancer John i think that was just a rotten woman and you havnt even been diagnosed yet things may not be how you think but your certainly better off without her

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I dont understand,im confused....I really loved her....how can you leave someone because they may have cancer?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thats may not be the reason she says she did it because she has met someone else and its not unusual for a partner to leave when there is something terrible happening.

A friend of mine lost her son when he was 15 he was run over and the day of his funeral her husband left her .

[sassy59 in reply to Hidden]

How sad Mandy. x

[itsBAme in reply to Hidden]

grief works in many forms mortalguy,, its happened to many of us,, parteners up an go on a dx of an illnesses and a death,, but you one thing maybe she does love you as you her and the coping and seein you ill can make people react different,, let her go and you now see to number one you,, focus now on you and your health first ok,, if it dusnt work out for her,, leave the door open eh,, the mean time see to you ok,, and you have members on hear now so you stay ok,, i hope she returns but if no, you get on with the task in front your health now is paramount,, ok

[Hidden in reply to itsBAme]

Thankyou so much your so kind and great advice...bigg hugg jx

[Gold13 in reply to Hidden]

Be sure the unknown is scary

[Hidden in reply to Gold13]

Sure is....your so kind big big hugs....

[madhead in reply to Hidden]

Talk about kicking a man when he is down!!! she obviously is not worth it, you need time to move on.

[itsBAme]

hi cancer and any illness as effects on a lot of people..it can drain you,, drown you,, in the end drive most people away from who ever is ill,, we all will die one day,, iv been reading your posts, yea iv seen cancer at its worst and i would not wish that on no one whay ive seen,, meso,, liver cancer cancer of the spine cancer of the stomach,, in our illnesses we can and we do at times say things we dunt mean or would never dream of saying and do things we never thought we would be doing, but life never pans out that why sadly,, so im saying to you,, stay with us mortalguy,, and forget the past posts written,, i dunt judge nor condone ,, as we dunt do that ,why,, as were all equal on hear,, no one is better than the nx member,, be it a he or a she,, now you have a day to rest and then come back to the site,, we all in a way need each others advice,, comments,, jokes even,, so tomorrow fresh you come back but do not leave,, ok,,

[pergola]

Mortal guy. I am sorry to hear about your girlfriend. Living and knowing a loved one with cancer and seeing them get worse, is the hardest thing to see. She probably didn't how to cope with the sadness. YOu will find your true friends in a situation like this. Good luck X

[Hidden in reply to pergola]

What true friends?im alone...

[itsBAme in reply to Hidden]

oi your not alone,, alf of us on hear are alone,,, but we have members so we are not alone in that sence.. yes we sleep alone talk to ourselves , live alone ,, have neighburs what say hi, gd day bla bla,, you mortalguy you never no whats round that corner eh,, you met us lot didnt you,, so get up and get out and stop walowinin what can not be changed none of us can change what we have got, sorry im not being nasty eh,, im tryin talk to you the best i can,, so come on up to you hear,, it comes as a shock to most of us,, but hay were not done till we are,, so now its up to you what you make of it,, eh

[beeperoni]

Hello Mortalguy,

i have to agree with the others. You have suffered a great loss with the girlfriend leaving, but you need to focus on your own health and well-being. Maybe she had already planned to leave and the possible diagnosis was just a good-timing excuse, or maybe she got scared. But regardless, you have no control over her choices. You need to take care of you. And I, along with many others, find the people on this site to be true inspirations. They are suffering from health and emotional problems, but are still able to reach out to others to provide comfort in times of need. These are true acts of compassion that we need to survive and to know that we are not alone. Stay strong and remember that there is always someone out that cares (even if they are not physically next to you).

Best regards,

Beeps

[Hidden in reply to beeperoni]

Thanx beeps big hugs just feel lonely right now....

[beeperoni]

You're welcome, and hang in there. If you think you're at rock bottom, there's no where left to go but up...so things CAN get better.

[Christine18]

A good bit of advice given to me .......don't waste your time, energy or thoughts on people who don't give a damn about you. Use your energy on YOU.........you are the important one nobody else just you.......make a plan about what you want to happen & about what you want to achieve........things will then fall into place & maybe you will meet someone who is worthy of you.......take care

[sassy59]

Some people cannot cope with another's illness so they just leave. It happens every so often. You will one day find someone who will love you no matter what so never forget that. xxx

[Azure_Sky]

Dear Mortalguy,

I have been in that very dark place, I didn't know how on earth I would get through it. I remember all too well how it feels to be utterly alone. But I DID get through it.

Internet friends are very precious. I have had some for years. Embrace the new friends you have here. We are eager to help you.

Here my version of a poem that might help a little.

If you love someone very much, let them go free.

If they don't come back, they were never meant to be yours.

If they do come back, cherish them forever.

They only way to change your life is to make the changes yourself. Put yourself out there, in places where you can meet people. Pulmonary Rehab is probably a good place to start.

Try to look forward, not back.

Yesterday is History,

Tomorrow is a mystery,

Today is a GIFT!