Easier said than done.

[Suzy6]

I do try but lately everything seems to worry me. My son keeps telling me stop worrying about everything.

[pergola1]

Suzy - maybe it is part of your nature to worry, but perhaps you need to be in charge of your worries. Why not make a list of everything that is bothering you. All your problems. Look at it and see what can be done about any one item. Add as necessary and in one week's time, see what has become of each fret. This works for me. Your son is right but easier said than done. Maybe you could talk to someone to try and get things in proportion. Come back here anytime. Good luck xx

[Suzy6 in reply to pergola1]

Thanks pergola, I do try. That is a good idea, never thought of that. Strange really I was always the strong one in the family but not at the moment.

[pergola1 in reply to Suzy6]

You will get there, believe me, but you will have to work at it. I know about worrying ...try moving home and downsizing after being there for 45 years. Give me strength with that !!! Xx

[Suzy6 in reply to pergola1]

Just the thought fills me with dread. We have been here 42 years and I know we should de-clutter but my husband is a hoarder. It will be worth it when you have settled in your new home. Try some spinach!! XX

[Mavary]

Hi Suzy6. I'm the same. I'm ok in my own domain. I don't like being put under pressure. The last week I have had to drive about twenty miles to Hospital to see my Husband and I truly hate it because I'm under pressure. I think people like us are just made that way and nobody is going to change it. I wish I was a confident person. I am however better than I used to be. X

[Suzy6 in reply to Mavary]

I did reply but it seems to have vanished into cyberland. I'm exactly the same in my own circle fine anywhere else go to jelly. I had to drive 5 miles yesterday and had to put the music on loud to calm myself. My husband takes the mikey because I used to do deliveries all over the Home Counties and have driven to the south of France many times. I myself think I'm pathetic!!!

[Mavary in reply to Suzy6]

Hi Suzy 6. You are normal. Not pathetic. We are all different. I bet you are kind and caring. Don't like to hurt people's feelings. That's how I am. Some people just don't worry about others and that's usually the very confident people. You are probably lovely as you are. I get hurt at what people say I bet you are like that as well. My husband says I don't drive enough but it makes no difference how much I drive I'm not confident. Yet I know I can drive ok. X

[Suzy6 in reply to Mavary]

Hi Mavary summed up correctly. My Husband is confident sometimes too confident. We are what we are and you and I are probably quite nice really. xx

[PositiveThoughts]

Sometimes we are born worriers not a great way to be others throw caution to the wind and live for today, I know how you feel and my son tells me every day the same thing, he is young at Uni and they don't want to hear our down side as life begins for them. So use the site and let us take some strain we all have fears we just have to try to be lighter round our younger family I think, well at least I try now I know it bothers him and he does not understand where I am coming from either at 19 , I have a daughter the same age 19 and she has far worse than me to cope with with rare epilepsy so I think of her problems and have to be lighter in my moods now, hard I know, here for you xx

[Suzy6 in reply to PositiveThoughts]

Thank you. It must be very difficult for you. Your son is of an age where he still needs support although he is grown up and your daughter needs you more. I think you are brave to be so positive. My son is much older. Have a good day XX

[PositiveThoughts]

Lovely to hear back take care Spring soon xx

[Hidden]

Hi Suzy6 - My mum became very similar to you but then suddenly became very depressed as well. Good news is - she went to the Doctor was put on medication and referred for CBT and she is 100% improved. Please go to your Doctor. TAD xx

[Suzy6]

Summed up nicely Stitch. I was always on top of everything before work wise domestic wise now I often feel as if I'm sinking.

[Suzy6]

Thanks Tadaw I will have a talk to the Practice Nurse she is good and helpful. Glad your Mum is 100% improved.

[Toci]

I was unsure of myself when I was younger but grew in confidence as I got older, some would say too much! But then COPD struck and I find I have become a worrier. A 'what if' person. I can completely identify with what you have said. What helps me is a) focus on what can easily be managed, b) ask everyone to give plenty of notice if they want you to do anything/go anywhere, and c) make plans before you do thing/set off for places to minimise the risk of things going wrong and to have a back-up plan in place just in case. xx

[Suzy6]

Thanks Toci feel oads better now. Will take on board your suggestions, thanks xx